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Seduction: what are the best flirting techniques?
Flirting techniques that work
Approach him (her) with the nerve
The idea is to find a bogus excuse to approach her (her mother goes to the same yoga club as you, you saw her photo on a mutual friend’s cell phone, for example). Even if the person notices that the excuse is bogus, it will bounce back for sure. If not, you will at least have tried.
Maintain the mystery
During your conversations, try to be as quiet as possible. The principle is to let him (her) speak as much as possible, in order to maintain the mystery about you. Do not go on a crusade of “I am the ideal man / woman, I did this, that, I am like this or like that…”. The more you try to convince that you are the party to conquer, the less it will make you want to conquer you.
To contradict him: to oppose in order to better reign.
The idea here is to assert your strength of character and dare to contradict him / her on an opinion, an idea that he (or she) has expressed. The desired person will find that you are respondent, that you are not a submissive doll or a yes-yes puppet.
Remain imperturbable
Whatever the circumstances, stay calm. Even if the person tries to destabilize you to attack, to titillate you, do not react. By being unfazed regardless of the subject or the judgment he / she may make, by showing him your stoicism, you demonstrate your strength of character and you destabilize him in return. Which is very attractive.
Remain indifferent
This is a corollary of the previous advice. By remaining indifferent to the other, we show that we are not subject to him / her. By asserting our independence of mind and leading our life without him / her, we inexorably attract him to us. It’s mechanical and human: run away from me, I follow you.
Pretending not to know your passion or hobbies
While we have surely already investigated to find out what he / she was doing with his evenings and weekends, we already know that he / she is fond of surfing or yoga, cinema or series, of outings to clubs or drinks on the terrace with the friends. When the person discusses his hobbies, pretend to know nothing and bounce back on a sharing of your common passions … in order to make a subtle reconciliation.
Special women flirting techniques
Avoid it
In order to get his attention, there is no point in chasing him… Instead, do the opposite. Arrange not to find yourself in front of him again. Your colleagues or friends will ask themselves questions, and will certainly share them with him, which will arouse his desire to meet you in order to understand … If he is not insensitive to you, he will try to know the why and the how, and will come closer to you.
Leave a note on his desk or his windshield
Text messages sent by mistake are has-been. In the 21st century, we opt for little words left with cheek on our desk or car. Of course, without signing, for the surprise effect. We will let the mystery hover over our identity, and little by little put it on the track. In some sort of mysterious letter-writing relationship, he’ll be forced to investigate to find us.
At the same evening with him
Using the pretext of being a little tipsy, as a semi-confession, spill your glass of alcohol on a girl to whom he is talking, mimicking a confused gesture. What is certain is that he will notice you! And will seek to know why you dared to do this.
Special flirting techniques for men
“What if” technique
In the conversation, instead of always going through the same banalities, we try to make her think and push her limits. And if you could move to another country, which one would it be? What if you could have sex anywhere where would you be? What if you could change something about yourself? Chills and shaken imagination, it will titillate his desire to talk to you again and again about his wildest dreams …
Stolen vocabulary technique
In the conversation, slip words with sensual (even sexual) connotations to initiate an imminent reconciliation! Warmth, enjoyment, caress, sensual, delicious, felt, pleasure… Choices and lexical shifts are all allowed.
Instead of qualifying her physique, qualify the feeling you have with her
Instead of saying “you are charming, pretty, well dressed…”, we establish a real bond by mentioning that we feel good with her, that we have a good time, with fascinating and fluid discussions. Guaranteed success.