From the Sinton forum
There came a time in my family when the relationship reached an impasse. It happened from the fact that we stopped hearing each other, even a small nitpick through verbal analysis and attempts to explain the problem resulted in a big scandal — before breaking up and collecting things. Accumulated. And the principle appeared — I do not agree, but I will logically explain why I am right, and the principle was implemented in two directions. The arguments became longer, more saturated, logically justified, but the result remained the same.
And I had a vision — how to return peace to the family.
Introduced a new rule. When we start arguing and in 10 seconds we don’t find out who is right and who is wrong, we need to do the following:
Play stone paper scissors — well, everyone played — and whoever lost takes the side of the opponent. The conversation begins again and the loser agrees in every possible way with what the winner says. not just — yes, you’re right — but zealously comes in support, develops the topic and suggests, etc.
The idea is that in this way there is a gradual opening of the picture of the partner’s world) you take his side, think like him, agree with him ….
The results are stunning) although the first one, of course, comes with a creak and a scrap of perception. but it’s worth it)))
Once you get used to it, it turns into an exciting and interesting game.