Negative energy: how to resist it?

“How can I avoid the negativity that other people throw at me?” a client once asked me. Unfortunately not. But you can learn to manage these waves of destructive emotions without hurting you too much.

All of us are subject to mood swings. We now and then intersect with people who are not in a good mood at the moment. One is enraged by the morning quarrel with his wife, the other is offended by the boss, the third is frightened because of the diagnosis made by the doctor. The negative energy with which they are overflowing does not apply to us, but is directed specifically at us. In the same way, however, as we can involuntarily throw out our anxiety or irritation on someone.

Unfortunately, this is a common way to deal with a situation when our ego is hurt. This “outburst” can happen at any time. If you do not have time to understand what is happening, even a caustic remark in the supermarket will unsettle you. Or the glare that someone you see for the first time will throw at you.

One can only guess about the reasons: perhaps this person is experiencing intense jealousy, humiliation, or you remind him of someone with whom he is angry. It is possible that you yourself drilled it with your eyes, without even realizing it.

But most often, the waves of negativity come from people we know well: a partner, child, parents, boss, colleague, or close friend. They can be recognized — at this moment, usually something in the stomach contracts or a heaviness appears on the heart. These sensations will let you know that there has been a release of negative energy — yours or someone else’s. And the challenge is to notice these flows. And empathy will help to cope with each of them.

Empathy carries a tremendous amount of energy, much more powerful than any negative emotions you throw out or receive from someone. Imagine that negative energy is a dark room. And compassion is a bright light. The moment you turn on the light, darkness disappears. Light is much stronger than darkness. Likewise with empathy. It is like a shield of light that can protect you from any negative energy.

How to achieve this? First of all, you need to direct this energy of compassion towards yourself, fill your stomach, solar plexus or heart with it. And then you will hear his prompts. You will immediately know who the negativity is coming from — from you to others or from another person to you.

If you yourself are the victim, try to spread this energy of empathy outward, and a protective field will form around you. Negative energy will hit him like an obstacle, an invisible ball, and come back. You are inside this ball, you are safe.

Over time, having mastered this technique, you will be able to induce this state very quickly, anticipating a meeting with a flow of negative energy. You will learn to feel and act like a loving adult who is in touch with your Self and empathizes with yourself and those around you.

You can reach a point where you don’t project negative energy onto others or even feel the destructive power of other people’s emotions. You will notice the presence of this energy, but it will not touch you, it will not hurt you.

It is impossible to achieve complete serenity, but it is necessary to be aware of how deeply this or that energy can affect us. It is important to be attentive to the energy that we radiate to the outside world, and take care of ourselves with love and tenderness so that someone else’s negativity cannot harm us.

You can, of course, choose another way of self-preservation — not to spend a lot of time with «toxic» people — but this will not solve the issue radically, because even the most calm and peaceful person has outbursts of irritation and a bad mood from time to time.

By regularly practicing mindfulness, keeping in touch with your feelings, you will be able to maintain inner balance when encountering other people’s outbursts of negativity and protect others from your own.

Source: The Huffington Post.