Mistakes in parenting

1. Spent little time with their child

While the baby is very small, the mother belongs to him completely, day and night. And when a child turns into a toddler, he becomes relatively independent. But at the same time he needs contact with his mother no less than before. Of course, there is not enough free time and the mother tries to have time to do something while the child plays with himself. But if you make it a habit, then you will not have time to look back, as your child will grow up and begin to live his own life. Lost time cannot be returned, so try to be close to your child not only physically, but also psychologically – we are talking about high-quality communication, and not just about being around.

2. Didn’t hug their children often enough


Scientists have proven the importance of cuddling for both mental and physical health. And it’s just nice to hug your child! Sometimes parents do not do this for various reasons, most of which are erroneous or outdated (for example, advice to young mothers not to pick up a child, “so that he does not get used to them …”). After a while, your child will grow up and will not let you hug him. Therefore, rejoice in the minutes when you can still do it.

3. Didn’t take a lot of photos

Of course, nothing terrible will happen if you rarely take pictures and record videos with the participation of the child. But, most likely, in the future you will want to remember the brightest moments of his life and share your emotions with your now adult children. Many parents regret bitterly that they have not used their camera and camcorder often enough. You are unlikely to revise the recording of the fireworks, but you will certainly want to see (and more than once) the first steps of your child. And photo albums (despite all the latest devices and technologies) are still the best and most reliable way to store your most valuable photos.

4. Didn’t write down their first words

These are just pleasant memories, without which it is easy to live, but the portal brightside.me strongly recommends doing this. If only because children themselves sometimes ask what their first word was, how they generally distorted their speech, learning to speak. All these little things create an atmosphere that will plunge you into the past better than any time machine.

5. Did not play creative games with children

Creative play does not mean that if you play with your child, he will certainly become a great artist or musician. But you give him a chance. By engaging your child in a variety of activities, you can identify what they are interested in and what they are particularly good at. These strengths can be developed later on. In addition, any kind of activity, such as reading aloud or joint modeling, develops the mind, imagination and increases vocabulary. Finally, the bond between you and your child becomes stronger, and this is reason enough to do something together. Experienced parents often regret overlooking the talents of their children, although some abilities are noticeable at a very early age.

It is one thing to scold a child for a real offense, but it is quite another to find fault with his every step. There is a popular myth that the higher the expectations, the more successful a person will become. However, in real life, the opposite often happens: swearing leads to behavioral and even developmental problems. Punishments for poor grades are also harmful – they can further impair academic performance. Punish and reward children for the things that really matter. Deuce and broken cup are not among them.

7. Did not take into account the opinion of their child

No one will be pleased to hear the phrases: “You are still too young to decide for yourself” or “I know better, I am an adult.” It’s offensive, but it’s not the worst thing in this case. Children whose opinions are regularly neglected grow up to be insecure adults. And this is logical: how can you know what you want from life if there is someone who always makes decisions for you? Let your child decide for himself and have his own opinion. Better yet, discussing with children their wishes and explaining their objections than simply ignoring and forbidding.

8. Didn’t think about shared impressions

Bright childhood memories are the most valuable thing that no one can take from us. Moreover, a small joint vacation can later turn into great achievements: if a child grows up in a healthy atmosphere and has many new experiences, this means that he is actively developing. Happy children find it easier to adapt as adults and create new relationships. For parents, such pleasant memories also bring a lot of joy. Therefore, create as many happy moments in the life of your children as possible and enjoy them yourself!

9. Often followed the advice of strangers


There are people who love to give advice with or without reason, and young parents often listen to them. These “experts” will give you a wealth of information on how best to dress, feed and raise your child. However, you are still the parents here, and therefore you know better than others what is good and what is bad for your child. Of course, advice can be listened to, but it is not at all necessary to follow them. By the way, if a stranger scolds your child, always take the child’s side. Children need to be assured of your support, no matter what happens.

10. Missed important events in your child’s life


Some things that seem unimportant to us can actually be very valuable to the child. The first competition, competition, performance at the matinee – whatever. All people (especially children) need someone close at such moments. Even if you have a good reason to miss a holiday or some other event where the baby would like to be with you, try to still be able to. Then both of you will have pleasant memories, but, on the contrary, there will be no regrets.