A film that is a little sad, an unpleasant remark or even just a little tiredness, and tears flow without you being able to do anything about it … Crying often is not necessarily the sign of depression. This can have several causes ranging from dry eye to hypersensitivity. When to worry though, when you cry very often?

At the slightest criticism, at the slightest event, or simply in front of a moving program, you start to cry, so often, that one wonders what is behind these tears. There can be several reasons for crying very regularly.

Irritated eyes

First of all, and you don’t always think about it, your eyes may be dry and itchy, causing you to suffer from dry eyes. You are therefore faced with a reflex tearing.

This can be a symptom of a pathology such as rheumatism or infections. If in doubt about the origin, you can consult an ophthalmologist, who will respond precisely to the cause of your so-called “reflex” tears.

Emotions and fatigue

When you have faced very stressful and tiring days, such as during exams for students, or even tense days at work, with family, children or others, the body may be overwhelming. expresses by discharging all the tensions accumulated by releasing tears.

These tears therefore have a “therapy” value and are experienced as something that makes us feel good, as if we were to empty our bag. Some people need to cry once a week, or once a month, to let go of their emotional overload. And it won’t be a sign of depression.

To be a woman or a man

If you are a woman, it turns out that you cry more often than men. Women feel less judged when they cry, unlike men. Social norms require them to cry less, because it is too feminine according to society, even if this belief tends to be erased.

Men, in general, rarely allow themselves to shed a tear. Women express themselves more easily by expressing their grief at the time of a break-up, a death or a traumatic event.

Pathological causes

There are, however, cases where tears can come from pathological causes, such as depression. So you always have to ask yourself why you feel sad.

If no concrete reason comes to us, we can reflect on these tears by writing or talking to relatives, for example, in order to find out the cause: what do you think about when you cry? If this seems too complex and if you cannot express your feelings, you should consult a psychologist or psychiatrist to find out the cause.

Crying on a regular basis without knowing why can be pathological and depression.

Hypersensitivity

Hypersensitivity can also in itself be a cause of very regular crying: more inclined to express their emotions, hypersensitive people communicate with others in this way, and this is not for all that a weakness.

Tears are a tool of communication, and some cannot, which severely handicaps them in the event of depression. Being hypersensitive can be a strength, if we accept the emotions that come to us frequently, using them to communicate and create. Hypersensitivity affects nearly 10% of the population.

Crying is a quintessential human reaction. However, if the frequency of your crying increases and causes you to question yourself, you should first try to understand where this behavior is coming from.

The list of causes above may help you spot what makes you cry.

Being hypersensitive, or in times of great stress or fatigue, are not necessarily sufficient reasons to consult a doctor. Here you simply have to accept yourself, take responsibility for your tears and understand that you are like this, very reactive to external events. Making it a strength and knowing yourself can be beneficial. Crying is seen as a weakness by others, and can either annoy or turn anger into empathy.

In case of frequent crying

However, if the very regular crying does not tell you a known cause, and that, despite a phase of introspective research through writing, we still do not know more about their cause, it is absolutely necessary to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist. , who will establish his diagnosis. Depression can be hidden behind this crying.

We can also worry when too frequent tears change our relationships. Indeed, society does not perceive people who display their tears.

At work, for example or at school, at university, we perceive mourners as manipulators, who manage to transform people who are angry with them, into people full of empathy. On the contrary, it can also annoy sometimes, instead of creating understanding.

Crying considerably modifies our relationships, so we can work with a specialist on our tears in order to limit them without however no longer expressing themselves emotionally.