Most parents put the upbringing of family values in their children first. Indeed, who does not want his son or daughter to grow up as a kind, sincere and sympathetic person? Of course, everyone wants it! But how should this be done in order to achieve a positive result? Family traditions mainly introduce not only what can and cannot be done, but also the traditions of their generations.
There are people who have no idea what “family values” are. These people are problematic in communication, in most cases they are not considered full members of society.
Of course, parents should instill family values. But how to do this, because this is not a school subject, there are no specially written methods and rules? First of all, you need to understand the question of what family values you want to pass on to your child. To do this, you need to start with yourself, try to sincerely answer the following questions: “What example do I set for my child?”, “What role do I play in the lives of children?”, “Do I need to explain to the child what family values are?”
A huge role in upbringing is played by the standard of parenting behavior. In most cases, many parents impose exactly the model of behavior that they themselves adhere to. They don’t even think about it. Everyone wants their child to be a better person than themselves. But did you know that many guys imitate their parents and want to be like them? Think about it. At first, they simply share your interests and preferences, and then they imitate your gait, habits, behavior, and the last most important thing is your moral and family values. That is why you need to set and show an exceptionally perfect role model. In other cases, whatever you say “no” will be useless.
Know that there are things that anyone, including a child, will understand without a single word. Family values also belong to these exceptions. Nothing explains to children what family values are like the impeccable behavior of their parents. It is impossible to deceive children, they like no one else feel the lies and “acting” of their parents. From this it should be concluded that deceiving and pretending is, of course, pointless.
Before you instill in your child family values, think about what you want to convey, and whether they are so important to you. In order for your children to adhere to such vital values as respect, love, kindness, loyalty, caring for each other, you just need to love your family, take care of it, not be ashamed to show them your feelings.
Remember to be present in your family’s life. The sense of presence does not arise when you buy or give something to your child, but in simple and ordinary family matters. This can be daily gatherings in the kitchen and discussing how the day went, or just soulful conversations. The main thing is that everyone can freely tell something and listen to others. This will be accompanied by a warm family environment.
In our modern world, it is also quite difficult to resist aggression, struggle, start and other other negative forms of behavior. This is facilitated by modern cartoons (very often American), but if there are many bad moments in their plot, then what about films for teenagers? In them, in general, sheer violence, fights, humiliation, insults and sexual connotations, as for family values, this, as they believe, is the last century. This is why you need to keep track of what your kids are watching and How long. It is best to select films and cartoons yourself that teach us to be good people, and watch them with the whole family.
Such is the modern world … It destroys the weak people, and makes the strong soulless. But you need to learn to resist immoral innovations, not to get lost in this negative information and, of course, to remain a person with a capital letter in order to raise your children as worthy people. Feel free to be human and you will succeed.