When relationships last for many years, we often forget that simple romantic gestures and courtesies keep the fire of love alive. They clearly show your beloved woman that you always care about her, appreciate her, admire her.
Want to add romance to your relationship? First, a few scientific facts about love. Psychologist, professor at Cornell University Robert Sternberg developed a “three-component theory of love.” Sternberg suggested that love is made up of three basic components:
Intimacy: Feeling of connection, unity between lovers.
Passion: Desires associated with romantic infatuation and sexual attraction.
Commitments: In the short term, this is a decision to enter into a love relationship, in the long term, an obligation to maintain and maintain this love.
When you’ve been married or in a relationship for a long time and the honeymoon is long over, it becomes difficult to strike a balance between the three components.
“It often seems to men that the best way to maintain harmony in a relationship is to give expensive gifts or exotic trips. In fact, even small but regular courtesies can do much more for a relationship than any gifts,” says Keith Dent, a coach, a specialist in personal development and relationships.
Here are 15 ideas for men who want to add some romance to their relationship with their wife or girlfriend.
1. Order an unusual card with a love message
Love notes or cards show your partner that you took the time and showed imagination by writing an unusual text. To make her especially pleased, leave the card in a place where she will definitely look, but will not expect such a surprise. If you are ready to spend money, you can make a custom-made postcard especially for her.
2. Sneak a kiss on her
A kiss, by definition, should be unexpected. What could be more romantic? Such a kiss shows the beloved woman that she is always desirable for you, no matter what she is doing at the moment.
3. Compliment her when she looks in the mirror.
Looking at herself in the mirror, she wants her external appearance to match (or even exceed) her internal ideas about herself. If at such a moment you compliment her, you thereby give an additional charge of confidence, helping to love and appreciate yourself more. This also strengthens her feelings towards you (for all three components of love).
4. Take on some of her household chores.
By making more time for household chores, you will show how much you appreciate the balance in the relationship, and give her the opportunity to get some rest.
5. Make your own decision
Sure, women want to be part of the decision-making process, but does she really want to make all the decisions for both of you? Decisiveness can be very romantic, as you show the woman you love that you know what she wants and are ready to take care of everything.
6. Surprise her by attending an important event for her.
By being flexible enough to be there for her when she needs it the most, you’ll show that she’s your number one priority.
7. Put your phone away
How do you feel when she tries her best to please you? She wants the same from you. When talking to your wife or girlfriend, put all your electronics away so you don’t get distracted.
8. Give her a hot bath
A relaxing bath will help her relieve the stress accumulated during the day. Do not forget about salts and aromatic bath oils, pour a glass of wine.
9. Agree with her
By agreeing with her, you do not succumb and lose in an argument, you simply confirm that her feelings are really justified. She feels that she is heard and understood.
10. Look at the stars together
It helps to look at the scale of our problems differently. It’s so wonderful to admire the greatness of the universe together, realizing that the two of you play your own (albeit small) role in the universe.
11. Tell her why you love her.
Both you and your wife will be very pleased if you can clearly put into words why you fell in love and chose her. This will once again show how deep and sincere your feelings are.
12. Remember that there is nothing like the touch of a loved one.
Physical contact keeps love alive. Studies show that partners are much more satisfied with their relationship if they regularly show their tenderness and love for each other through tactile contacts.
13. Watch your favorite comedy together
Laugh together more often – it brings you closer.
14. Come up with an unusual way to confess your love
We are used to communicating with text messages and emoticons. The more interesting it will be to discover an original love message from you. For example, in the form of a picture you wrote or a note inside the bottle. Creativity supports passion.
15. Remind her that you are always there.
Reassure her that she can always count on you and she doesn’t even have to worry about it. Promise that you will be there when she needs support. And do your best to keep your word.