Story
Purpose: find out how the child sees his position in the family, what, in his opinion, is his role in the mother-father relationship; find out if he feels jealous of the union of his parents.
“We are celebrating my parents wedding anniversary. Mom and dad love each other very much and want to have fun celebrating the holiday. They invited all their friends and their parents. During the holiday, their child gets up and goes alone into the garden. What happened, why did he leave?
Typical normal responses
— Went for flowers for mom;
— Went to play a little;
— He became bored with adults, so he decided to have fun alone;
— He was tired of being at the festival;
— He was reprimanded about how he eats (sits, behaves, etc.);
- Other responses regarding holiday boredom should be considered normal, as they are quite common.
Answers to look out for
— He left because he was angry;
— I wanted to be alone;
— He felt sad (lonely);
No one paid any attention to him, and he decided to leave.
Psychologist’s comment
If the answers are negative, you should ask additional, clarifying questions, asking the child to give a more detailed explanation. It is possible that the child will not want to continue the conversation or explain his answers, but may give clarifications.
The relationship between husband and wife has a huge impact on the development of a child’s personality. Lack of care and control negatively affects children. If parents show insufficient interest in the child, and care and attention are of a formal nature, then such a lack of involvement of the child in family life leads to antisocial behavior due to an unmet need for love and affection.
With a strong attachment of the spouses to each other, the child is forced out of the family community and remains a creature on which nothing depends in their eyes.
Tests
- The Tales of Dr. Louise Duess: Projective Tests for Children
- Fairy tale-test «Chick»
- Tale-test «Lamb»
- Tale-test «Fear»
- Fairy tale test «Elephant»
- Fairy tale-test «Walk»
- Tale-test «News»
- Tale-test «Bad dream»