The doer is a person in an active position, living and acting at his own expense. A parasite is a person who lives and acts at the expense of other people.
The Doer and the Parasite are two fundamentally different life strategies. The strategy of the Doer is to create one’s own success, to achieve it by one’s own efforts, the strategy of the Parasite is to expect success as a gift from the world, or, more realistically, to receive it at someone else’s expense.
Where does that come from
The choice between these two life strategies is rarely made by a conscious decision from the head, more often each person makes this choice in the very first weeks of his life. See →
Life prospects
Usually, in a situation of passive personal growth, a person for the rest of his life only strengthens himself in the existing choice, trains himself to live in this choice in the best possible way.
If he has the choice of the Doer, he teaches himself activity and responsibility hour after hour and day after day, but if he has the choice of the Parasite, then year after year he trains himself as a magnificent Parasite: he teaches himself to make miserable muzzles, tired shoulders, offended intonations and other decorations of the unjustly struck Victim.
A parasite can get along well in life, at one time be a cheerful, creative, and sweet person, but this is a person who lives on the success of someone else and chooses irresponsibility in life. The doer, on the other hand, builds his life himself, looks for a deed that he will do himself, and knows that only he is responsible for both his victories and his defeats.
At the same time, the person-doer does not at all object to sometime using someone else’s help (“We like everything that is useful for the cause!”), But even he organizes this help himself, rather than expecting it drearily and crying in its absence.
Big and small
«Big — small» is a conversation about the emerging inner core of a person, about the position of the Actor and the Parasite. “You are already big, you can do it yourself!” is a call to the position of the Doer, a warning of the position of the Parasite. See →