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He and she. They look at each other. A spark runs between them, attraction and curiosity are born. And no words are needed. However, not all of us are able to distinguish the signs of attention that are sent to us. How to learn it?
By the time a man and a woman want to show each other sympathy, they have most likely managed to chat. And if “something” arises between them: interest, attraction, internal contact, then this immediately becomes clear even without words.
Body language — an elusive, ambiguous, peculiar cipher, consisting of a whole series of sex signals: mannerisms, movements, postures, looks — gives rise to the «dance of seduction.»
Head or body?
Not everyone is able to recognize the signals sent by the partner. “People who are accustomed to act with the mind, it is much easier and more logical to show signs of attention in a conversation. For them, a kind of cipher that seems to be body language is a mystery, explains Francesco Padrini, author of books on non-verbal communication. “Others, on the contrary, are more in tune with their body and energy, which allows them to win the heart and feelings of a potential partner without further ado.”
Check out the most common signals that are common to both sexes and use them when you feel sympathy and want to play openly with someone you like. What sex signals are characteristic of both sexes?
It
Many women give sex signals intuitively when they see an attractive man. The main parameters are rhythm and measure.
Standing
The woman straightens up, bends forward a little. Often one leg is slightly bent.
Sitting
Straight back, chest in sight. Some women like to cross their legs, often changing them, like Sharon Stone in the famous scene from the movie «Basic Instinct». They also often subtly stroke their legs, as if checking for tights or stockings under their clothes. Sometimes they can swing their feet, pointing the toe up.
Smile
She may be barely marked, or she may be open and happy. Some women bite their tongue a little, lick or bite their lip — a sensual gesture, far from the way we bite our lips when we are nervous.
Eyes
She looks the man straight in the eye and lingers for a fraction of a second, no more — otherwise there will be a feeling of obsession. After that, she looks away, and after a while the reception is repeated. Each has its own style: someone’s look can be cheerful, someone’s sly, someone’s timid.
Hair
Often touches: runs his hand over them, strokes and straightens, shakes. However, be careful: if she winds a strand of hair around her finger, it will betray her anxiety more than show her eroticism.
Face
It can express interest or, for strategic reasons, distraction and inattention. No signs of suffering or irritation.
Arms
A woman strokes herself a little, and this becomes like an offer to a potential partner — after all, these touches make him want to touch her. She lightly touches her face with her fingers, lingering near the lips and eyes, or moving to the hair to straighten or throw back the strand.
The movements are soft. Often touches some object — a glass or a bottle standing on the table. Sometimes it is decided to touch a man, as if by chance (for example, reaching out to take a glass), or to show some care (removing a non-existent mote from a jacket).
of movement
An important point. A woman often changes her position, and it is absolutely natural. She can lean forward towards the man, thus reducing the distance and creating a more intimate atmosphere, and then again lean back a little, which in the end looks very seductive.
Gait
A woman walks, shaking her hips, and this movement should not be exaggerated or too feigned, otherwise it will look vulgar. If it is done gracefully, the man will not stand.
He
The male arsenal of sex signals is smaller than that of women: it works due to the magnetic appearance of a man, look and gestures. Imagine a man dancing the tango: he does not perform any tricks, on the contrary, he moves with calm confidence, allowing his partner to concentrate on his artistry and virtuosity.
Standing
Straightens the back, straightens the shoulders, chest. He stands firmly on the ground, does not make unnecessary movements. He can stand, leaning on something — a motorcycle or a car, on a bar in a cafe — and from there «shoots» with his eyes, thus sending signals to the woman and at the same time inviting her to look at him.
Sitting
The back is straight, the shoulders are straightened, the hands are on the table or on the armrests. He sits with his legs apart, his posture is natural, sometimes he can sit cross-legged, with his ankle on his knee.
Look
Everyone has their own style. Someone slightly covers their eyes, using the so-called «look of a predator.» Sometimes a man’s gaze is longer and more penetrating than a woman’s — after all, that’s how he takes on the role of a hunter — but they do not imply intrusiveness. Some prefer an open look, cheerful and carefree, almost childish.
Arms
Most of the time they are visible. Gestures are smooth, soft, measured. Sometimes a man straightens his tie, if he does it too often, he betrays his excitement. The hand can lie on the belt. When the conversation is already in full swing, he can touch the woman, touching her hand, shoulder. He may decide to resort to tactile contact on purpose: to take a woman by the hand, to hug.
of movement
The most important thing is his confidence, flexibility. He shortens the distance, moves forward to the woman, can touch her as if by chance.
Muscles
If a man is in good physical shape, he will certainly demonstrate this as soon as the opportunity presents itself. Moreover, not much is needed for this — on the beach, for example, he will play volleyball with friends or show himself while swimming: he will dive beautifully and jump into the water. In the evening, wear a tight-fitting shirt or T-shirt.