At the consultation, a 47-year-old woman. As they say with traces of former beauty. Although the figure is still slim. The lack of joy in life is emphasized by faded eyes, careless and unfashionable «aunt’s» clothes.
I (according to my Psychoflowers method) asked to choose a flower and something from the furniture in the apartment that looked like her. She said without hesitation: “I am an armchair!”
The flower is cordilina. Cordilina is a plant that requires light and warmth. If it is not there, then the red border along the edge of the leaf turns pale and the plant becomes gray, inconspicuous, faded. I talked about other aspects of the life of this flower. Christina agreed completely.
About the chair and even easier. Everyone is sitting on it. It’s convenient for everyone, only the “armchair” is already very tired.
The situation is as follows. Husband took a mistress. Lies constantly. In addition, Christina had long been accumulating negative feelings about her husband, he began to annoy her greatly. She moved from him to a separate bed in another room. When we did the exercise, what good does your husband give you and what is bad, good, there were only two points, a big list of bad ones. Against the backdrop of this whole unsolvable situation, the husband lies, goes to spend the night with his mistress, but is not going to change anything in the family, only increases control over Christina. She lost all interest in life. She doesn’t know how to deal with it. Self-esteem below any level.
The first thing we did. They wrote ten positive qualities that characterize Christina. She couldn’t handle this exercise. I started suggesting. Easily scored ten. Moreover, after talking with Christina, I saw a lot of advantages in her, about which I told her. Christina even somehow perked up. She smiled. Am I really like this?
They began to remember what they loved in childhood, what they like to do now. What might be interesting today? Planned a trip to the bookstore to listen to the clues of the soul.
Christina’s job is very challenging, dealing with the elderly and dealing with complaints. There is absolutely no time for yourself. We agreed that at least for lunch she would go outside and change the situation. Better yet, start looking for a job. Again, the fear of age. Who will take me after 40? We outlined a plan where she can be in demand, despite her age.
Fear of leaving your husband. Firstly, in a year they nevertheless promised to expand, and secondly, he will get it out of the ground. He is a military man and is used to giving orders and having everyone obey him. There is no opinion other than his own. She already made attempts to go to her mother. He brought her back by force. Kristina does not want to get involved with the courts. It will be more expensive. And health is not enough. The husband himself will never leave the house. We agreed that while she would not pay attention to her husband’s infidelity, she would stop all conversations on this topic, and take care of herself. In two weeks we will look at the first results and work further.
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