The thinkers of ancient Greece, such as Plato, Epictetus, Aristotle and others, taught deep wisdom of life, which remains relevant today. The external environment and conditions have changed dramatically over the past millennia, but in many respects man has remained the same. Constructive criticism should be taken seriously. However, the negativity directed at you often has nothing to do with you. In most cases, a negative outburst is a sign of a bad mood of the person himself, a bad day or even a year, which makes you want to take it out on others. Complaints, lamentations and a negative attitude that others broadcast into the world speaks of their own well-being and self-awareness in this life, but not about you. The problem is that we are often so focused on our own lives that we take everything that is said to us personally. But the world doesn’t revolve around you or me. Keep this in mind when faced with emotionally charged feedback towards you.
And, more importantly, remember every time you feel an overwhelming urge to take your anger out on another person. Ask yourself what is YOUR problem in life that causes the above need. The more a person tries to assert himself at the expense of the oppression of others, the more unhappy such a person is in his life. We always want something. A new car, a new job, a new relationship or, corny, a new pair of shoes. How often do we think: “If only I moved abroad, got married, bought a new apartment, then I would become really happy and everything around would be fine!”. And, as often happens, it comes into your life. Life is Beautiful! But, for a while. We begin to feel that perhaps something has gone wrong. As if the fulfillment of a dream did not cover the expectations that we set for it, or maybe they simply attached too much importance. Why is this happening? After a while, we get used to everything. All that we have achieved and acquired becomes normal and self-evident. At this point, we start wanting more. In addition, desired events, things and people can come into our lives … with unexpected “side effects”. In reality, the desired new job may lose to the old unreasonably strict bosses, the new partner reveals unpleasant character traits, and moving to another continent left loved ones behind. However, not everything is always so deplorable, and life changes often lead to the better. However, one should not think that a new place, person, etc. able to solve all your problems and make you happy. Cultivate sincere gratitude and a positive attitude towards the present moment. In the course of life, we learn a huge amount of information, acquire an impressive range of attitudes according to our experience. Sometimes these beliefs, which are firmly ingrained in us and with which we feel comfortable, do us not the best service. We cling to them because it is habitual and “we have been living this way for many years, if not decades.” Another thing is that it is not always easy to recognize those habits and beliefs that hinder development. What once helped and worked for you sometimes loses its relevance in the current new situation. As you develop, you need to let go of the past and the image of the former “I” in order to fully move forward. It is important to be able to filter out the really necessary knowledge among the endless stream of information offered to us. Adjust the knowledge gained to suit you and your reality. The ancient Greeks understood that happiness is a matter of choice, just like suffering. How you feel depends on what you think. One of the signs of aerobatics is the ability to keep control over happiness and suffering. One helpful tip is to learn to be present in the present moment as much as possible. To a large extent, suffering occurs when thoughts are directed towards the past or the future that has not happened. In addition, you need to remind yourself that you are not your thoughts and emotions. They only pass through you, but they are not you. Become an observer.