8 Signs You’re Good at Love

Do you think your partner is lucky to have you? Perhaps, after reading the question, you immediately nodded your head vigorously. Then, however, they remembered how recently they hissed at her husband when, while preparing breakfast for you, he soiled the entire kitchen. Or about the fact that they never assembled the rack, although the wife has already asked you about it a hundred times. Well, no one is perfect, and this is not required: in a relationship, something else is more important.

1. You have boundaries and you know how to defend them.

You do not «grow» with a partner and do not live his life; know where in your pair one “ends” and the second begins. You are not a lone wolf, but you are independent. You are fully involved in the relationship, but that doesn’t make you codependent.

You want your partner to be happy, but you don’t sacrifice your own interests just to please or reassure him. You know exactly what you want to do and which of your friends and family to see, and you are not ready to refuse it — your partner does not require this.

2. You know how to express your wants and needs

You clearly and distinctly talk about what suits you in your relationship and what does not. You do it openly and you know how to insist on your own, but you are not passive-aggressive. You don’t back down just to avoid conflict. In addition, you are excellent at listening and able to look at any situation through the eyes of a partner.

3. You are an emotionally mature person and expect the same from your loved one.

You and only you are responsible for your mood, feelings and behavior. You act like an adult — at least most of the time — and don’t leave all your problems to your partner.

When a loved one has a hard time, you are ready to listen and support him, but at the same time you understand that he is an independent person, responsible for his choices and decisions. You expect the same support in return, without acting as «parents» for each other.

4. You have an idea about healthy relationships

Many are sure that they are unlucky in love, because in childhood they were deprived of a normal example of the relationship between a man and a woman. Of course, it’s great when harmony, mutual understanding and love reign in the parental family, but each of us is able to create our own model of healthy relationships, relying on a variety of «sources» — literature (including psychology), examples of familiar couples.

5. You see your partner as they are, without embellishment.

You don’t wait for the person you love to truly open up and realize their potential. You are not trying to make someone else out of him: even if a person changes outwardly, inside he will remain the same. And you are ready to accept and forgive.

6. Your expectations are realistic

You quite rightly expect your partner to keep promises, but you do not expect that he will solve all your problems and save you from worries and stress. And if you, for example, have your own standards of order in the house, you do not get angry with your loved one when it turns out that he is not able to maintain them.

7. You are generous

You are truly kind and do things for your partner without even being asked or reminded. You give all your best, but to a reasonable limit, without squeezing yourself to the last drop. You generously give your partner your time, energy, support and love.

8. You are lucky

In love, there is an element of luck: we can be the most beautiful person in the world, but this does not mean that the partner will love us the way we deserve. So if your feelings and attitude towards each other are mutual, be grateful for it.

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