In recent years, a concept that speaks to all mothers has made it buzz: a mental load. And for good reason, many of us know and experience it every day, this ” mental charge That crushes us modern and accomplished mothers. Understand the set of things to do to “oil” the daily life of the family.
Yes, even if the potato have made good progress in division of labor and do not hesitate to participate, they remain far from imagining the gravity which overwhelms us of having to “think of everything”, to organize their missions of father like managers for their team, in a word, taking responsibility for the home in addition to keeping it running half the time.
So, if you recognize yourself in these 10 signs, it is high time to find solutions to delegate / de-stress by dialoguing with the man who shares your daily life, but not always your concerns …
1-You send emails or SMS to your spouse so that he does not forget his tasks (shopping, vacuuming, picking up the children…).
2-When you are away, you always prepare the meal in advance and you even set the table! Not to mention outfits for children …
3-You order toys or clothes during your work meetings.
4-You always finish the missions started by your spouse. Example: extend the machine that he has turned.
5-You wake up at night to write down things about your to-do list or your agenda.
6-When you have friends over for dinner, you are already thinking about when to tidy up, clear out, do the dishes. And that spoils your fun!
7-You know the anniversary dates of all the members of your in-laws. Unlike your lover.
8- You have to write down some advice like “Take a moment for me every week”.
9-When your spouse is shopping, he calls you every 10 minutes to ask for your opinion. “Do I have lettuce or batavia?” “
10-When your spouse asks you what he can do to help you around the house or with the children, you prefer to answer “nothing”, for fear of wasting more time fixing his mistakes, or explaining the process to him.