A woman was walking along a busy street. Something elusive favorably distinguished her from the crowd.
What was the difference, it was difficult to guess. If she were young, one could say about the attractiveness of youth. She was at the age when girlish youth had already ended, and women’s autumn was still far away. At the same time, her body was strong and flexible at the same time, this was felt in her gestures and gait. There was that expression of daydreaming and good humor on his face, which attracts those around him like a magnet. I wanted to talk to her. And when the conversation unfolded like a full-fledged river, I wanted to secretly touch the shoulder or arm, so that the inner light that lives in it would look into the life of the interlocutor.
She was charming and at the same time kept her distance, she was smart, but at the same time she could well make and forgive herself a mistake, she was beautiful, but it happened that she allowed herself to be without makeup, while men were always ready to respond to her female call . In a strange way, the earthly was united in it with the airiness of the ether. What did she do to be like this? Only one thing is known, that everyone said about her that she is a real Woman.
Sometimes I looked into her eyes filled with thoughts, feelings, images and understood what she can do — she knows how to live in a special way, she knows how to inspire herself and others. After talking with her, a good mood came for no reason, and some individuals wanted to achieve the impossible, for example, to conquer Everest.
They say that women are stupid beings. And really, who heard about female logic? Say that and men will start laughing. It’s stupid, who doesn’t know this?! She was not a woman and thought willingly and often. Even the men recognized this. And sometimes, at special moments, the age-old wisdom of the entire female race was manifested in her.
They say that women are irresponsible creatures. They are late for dates, they change decisions almost in five minutes, they contradict themselves. You can’t rely on them, they don’t keep their word. You couldn’t say the same about this woman. From her first word, it became clear that she took her promise very seriously. If she promised to come, she came. If she promised to do it, she kept her promise. As a brand of her responsibility was the cozy cleanliness in her small apartment.
They say that women are momentary creatures. It’s good for her now, but what will happen next — at least the grass does not grow. Dragonflies fly through life and do not think about tomorrow. They don’t even think about teaching themselves something new. In secret, this Woman admitted to me that she works on herself every day. Every day she checks herself: did she live this day with dignity, was she able today to match this main name in her life — Woman? Has she crossed the line beyond which she will lose this award — the name «Woman»? Does she act like a real woman would? Does she speak, behave, create around herself everything that a real Woman could create?
It is said that women are fearful and helpless creatures. Perhaps this is true for the woman.
Her confidence and calmness were in the movement of her hands and in her breathing, in a silent smile and the ability to calculate the situation. No one would doubt her self-control in any difficult everyday situations. She was given the most difficult parts of the work. Feminine strength was felt in her unusually. This female power inspired a slight envy of others. “You are doing well,” they told her, without thinking about the true state of things. But ask these people if she is a man in a skirt, they would twist at the temple.
It is said that women do not like strong male decisions. They need to be softer, more gentle, so that without fights, without war and without the need to take tough measures against the perpetrators of the incidents. May be so. Only this Woman knew how to swallow the bitterness of a tough decision as if she did it every day. However, she did make decisions every day. She commanded the army of her emotions and feelings like a great commander in chief. Every day she decided for herself which feeling or emotion she would not release into life, and which one would give many hours and days. She decided the fate of the people around her: to which person she would give her attention and support today, and whom she would hit with inattention or even deprive her warmth and love forever. Difficult decisions with big consequences for people.
They say that women talk about empty things without stopping. I wanted to talk to her, because her clues and words gave a new perspective on the situation. She prompted simple actions with easy words, which at once opened up new possibilities. And in order to make it easy for the interlocutor to agree with her words, she was femininely soft and streamlined, conveying her thought to the person. People thought they were the ones who thought of it! And one had to be very careful to understand who was the author of the thought they needed.
She had a child and the adoration of a beloved man. How easily and simply she found a common language with all of them, made friends with the planet of man and the planet of the child. The man and the child obeyed her and were ready to fulfill her slightest whim, only she had no whims. There was loving care, the strictness of the mother and the passionate magnetism of the Woman. Sometimes it seemed to me that her voice was to blame for everything. It was iridescent and at the same time soft so that I wanted to listen to her without thinking about the words.
Her relationship with the man she loved was a complete mystery to me. She was not afraid of losing him, but she was afraid of not creating a little holiday for him every day. She wouldn’t let him say goodbye to herself, but she did let him stay late at work or flirt with girls. She could court him as the center of the universe, but she would never have lingered for a second near him if he ceased to be a Man. She didn’t say «my» man, she said he was Man.
Sometimes it seemed that she was not engaged in a child. But this was a wrong impression. She, like a sculptor, carefully cut off everything unnecessary, without interfering with the child’s natural impulse to explore the world and develop. She talked to him on an equal footing, but imperceptibly ruled like a caring mother, put the necessary thoughts into her head.
But this is not more important, something else is more important. She knew how to be a muse for people. She knew how to look at the interlocutor in such a way, to hug him with her voice and speech in such a way that the interlocutor thawed his soul. And then, in some inexplicable way, the interlocutor recalled his small successes and joys. And by the end of the conversation, he suddenly realized that everything was fine with him, and interesting feats awaited him ahead, which he would definitely accomplish. In these feats, he is guaranteed to be the winner. He even knew to whom he would dedicate his victory: of course, to her, a loving Woman.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.