Love is a fire that you have to know how to maintain by blowing on the embers, by supplying it with kindling and fine logs, by creating calls for air. You can triumph over the contingencies of everyday life and sprinkle a little poetry and magic on your relationship. For that, here is an anti-routine program.
Make oneself desired
In a few years, things have changed without necessarily realizing it. Does he like flirtatious women? So much the better ! This is what you were at the beginning of your story. Except today, you spend more time jogging than perched on your heels. Everything is a pretext to postpone the epilation session or to forget the handling of mascara. Work as far as the eye can see, a little sleeper baby or a time-consuming job, we forget the force of seduction that is in us. It is urgent to find his “sexy attitude”, the one that seduced him. Take care of your appearance: make up, do your hair, dress yourself …
Get rid of the shapeless old vest that kept you so warm during your last month of pregnancy! It only takes a few minutes a day to add some glamor to your appearance. You will gain self-confidence and seduction. To be desired is also to know… to disappear. “You miss only one being and everything is depopulated. Take up this pretty thought of Lamartine and miss him! Of course, you are in a relationship, but that’s no reason to stay stuck. Routine is also about no longer looking at yourself and no longer listening to yourself. So go out without it, enjoy your friends, treat yourself to moments of life that are yours alone. A movie or a dinner with friends, a belly dance class, a mosaic workshop, an evening in the hammam with massage and mint tea. This will have the advantage of breaking up your relationship and creating experiences that you can talk about… with them.
Surprise him and spoil him
Gifts foster friendship… and even more love. Did he mention a book last night? He finds it under his pillow tonight. More than the value of the gift, it’s the attention that counts. The fact that you actually heard what he was saying. Technology also helps you stay in touch: a little joke in the mail or a ” I love you “ by text are as many proofs of love distilled discreetly. No doubt he will want to give you a hug when he receives a “can’t wait to see you”. Finally, you will gain even more glamor by tracing his morning itinerary with post-it notes: “Hello, I love you” on the bathroom door, “You are beautiful” on the mirror, “You smell good” on her perfume, “The blue suits you wonderfully” on her coat, “Vivement tonight” on the steering wheel of her car… Your imagination has no limits and neither does the pleasure of feeling loved.
The surprise is the spice of the couple. Usually one kills love. So why not take everything that we always do the same and… change it. Like that once in a while to surprise him. He expects a quiet mid-week dinner, but you have prepared a fine dinner with good wine. Does he think you have guests? But no, it is for you two this beautiful table and these candles. Once is not customary, organize surprises that are as many opportunities to get out of the routine and find yourself in an extraordinary situation. And why not pick him up straight out of his office to take him to the show? Take charge, book the tickets and the babysitter and enjoy the moment.
Maintain complicity
After a few years, we sometimes tend to live next to each other, meeting to discuss the essentials: raising children, buying a house, the next vacation … Never hesitate to take time to talk about your life project. Having common goals and refining them together is very unifying for your relationship. We must not lose sight of them and replace those that are outdated. But for this, it is essential to create small meetings for two: one movie per week, a one-on-one dinner, a quick little coffee outside before the office … Organize these quirky meetings, that only a case of force majeure could make you miss, maintains communication and complicity. Nothing better to create dates than to embark on a new activity for two : ballroom dancing or badminton, bridge or poker… To maintain a flawless bond, you must also know how to remain lovers. Of course, there is not only sex in life but it remains the keystone of the couple. This is why we must keep the flame alive. Still and always ! Intimate relationships quickly mark time in a married life. We don’t have time, we are tired … For all kinds of reasons, sometimes legitimate, we make love less and less. If the weariness outweighs the enthusiasm of the beginnings, it’s up to you to spice up your sex life: put him in the mood by preparing a scented bath, ignite him adorned with a new set of sexy lingerie, inspire him with naughty accessories …