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You did it: set an ambitious goal and achieved it. But the first excitement passed, and there was an unpleasant feeling that it could have been better or that more could have been done. You tell yourself that everything is fine, that you should be happy, but you feel disgusting. How to get rid of eternal dissatisfaction?
1. Stop
Drop things, take time out. Stay with yourself for as long as you need: a moment, an hour or a day. Don’t do anything. This is the first step to get out of the abyss of constant dissatisfaction. Timeouts are best spent in nature, without a smartphone.
2. Breathe
How do you breathe? Can you take a few deep belly breaths? Compare breathing in a calm and “busy” state. Deep breathing is an effective and quick reset: inhale slowly through your nose, imagining that your stomach is a balloon that you are filling with air.
3. Listen to yourself
Capture the moment when a feeling of dissatisfaction arises. Are you silencing him by being distracted by work, food, or something else? We are not used to listening. It takes silence to hear, and we have a lot of thoughts in our heads. The breathing exercise described above will sharpen your intuition and help you understand what you really want. It needs to be done for 3-5 minutes.
4. Dream
Allow yourself to be a child again. Draw 12 squares on the sheet for the number of months in a year. Use colored felt-tip pens to write what you want to do each month.
5. Focus
Avoid multitasking – you feel like you’re efficient, but it’s dumbing you down. Set priorities: what is important at the moment? Make time for your child or take on a project? If you focus on one task, you will get more done and experience less stress.
6. Take action
To paraphrase a classic, we can say that knowledge is a potential power. Knowledge without action is useless. Think about what you can do now to get a little closer to your goal. Small steps lead to big results.
7. Communicate
Once you’ve sorted out your dreams and desires, look for people who have excelled in the areas you want to succeed in. Read about them and what they write, understand what they do differently. Try to get to know them live or online.
Talk about what you create, with whom you communicate, realistically. Choose a platform where you will share your impressions, knowledge, and experience. I love Instagram, but I also do podcasts, host webinars, perform on stage, and meet friends.
9. Celebrate
When was the last time you celebrated something? If you are not happy with success, it was probably a long time ago. One of my favorite ways to celebrate is to put on some music and dance. I also like romantic dinners with my husband, girly gatherings with my daughter and Sunday outings with friends. Treat yourself to a fragrant bath, a walk in the park, or a weekend getaway. You deserve!
10. Start over
Use these strategies again to remember what’s important to you and achieve what you really want. Stop striving for success for the sake of success, listen to yourself. Answers to the questions “Who am I?” and “What do I want?” are within us, it remains to hear them.
About the author: Courtney McDermott is a motivational speaker.