When students of the University of Practical Psychology begin to master time management and divide classes into Business-Service-Emptiness, most of the questions come from women — wives, mothers and housewives.
“If Business is a productive activity that will be appreciated and paid for by someone, then where should I properly attribute cleaning, cooking, washing, ironing? Home will appreciate, but will not pay.
If I cook dinner for my husband, is this my husband’s service? Or a matter of strengthening family relationships? or emptiness, because I myself prefer to just sprinkle cucumber with salt or eat a couple of apples?
If I write a study paper, is this the case? Or a service?»
I suggest using the following criteria:
1. Can I entrust someone with the execution without damage, but with benefit for me? Can someone do it with the same efficiency or even better? Can I do something more useful instead of this activity?
If the answer is yes, then most likely this lesson is Service for you.
How are things at work. If the leader suddenly, instead of his duties, begins to fill in some insignificant database, he is engaged in the Service, and even the Void. But for his secretary it will be — Deed. And if the secretary does not yet know how, then the business of the leader is to allocate time and teach the secretary.
Accordingly, if there are no grown-up children in the family yet, and the wife does not work, then her task is to give joy to loved ones, and cleaning, ironing and Creating a Cozy Home will be her most Important Business!
If the children have grown up and it is time to teach them household chores, then for the mother, cleaning becomes a Service, and the Deed will be teaching children the tricks of housekeeping.
A small digression: we entrust someone with a service not for the sake of our idleness, but to do other, more Important Things that move us towards the goal.
This is how I usually explain to the children: “I am asking you to play with your little brother / wash the dishes, not to laze yourself, but to work at this time. What do you mean you don’t want to? Then tell me who, in your opinion, is more correct to wash the dishes now, and who will earn money at this time.
In the same way, it is unacceptable for a wife to get up at the stove when she comes home from work, while the husband at this time sits down at a computer game, “delegating” the Service to his wife. Ideally, at home, everyone should find a Cause that they can perform most effectively.
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