Men and women have very different views on raising children.
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There is a male upbringing, and it obviously differs from a female upbringing. If you don’t measure which is better and which is worse, then it’s more important to figure out: what are the features of this, female education? What are its main features?
It seems that the female nature is close not to firm responsibility, but to soft care: the state of the process of love and care. A woman knows that if she is caring, if she has a state of love in her soul and a desire to be close to the child, everything will be fine.
A woman loves a child for who he is. A woman has unconditional love, it is not so important for her whether her children will be perfect and meet some high criteria: all these criteria are not hers, but the children are her own and relatives: it is more important for a woman that nothing happens to them, God forbid. Of course, a woman will be upset if her children turn out to be much worse than others, but a woman will not rest against her horn for the sake of the “quality” and “perfection” of her children: “Healthy, normal, no worse than others — and thank God!”. To strain a child with demands, all the more seriously and methodically — no, this is contrary to female nature. She is closer: “A child has one duty — to be a child!” and “The child owes nothing to anyone!”
The approach of male security forces is not close to women, they profess the approach of Dushka. Women believe in the positiveness of the child and are careful not to lose him. When a boy is brought up by his mother, she respects the masculine principle in him, that is, she believes in this principle, reinforces its manifestations and tries not to destroy these fragile (in the female vision) sprouts. She is afraid to interrupt the child and point out his mistakes, because the child may get upset and lose faith in himself.
Following her feelings, a woman is more cautious than a man (“Put on a scarf, you’ll catch a cold!”), Mother’s primary motivation is the “from” motivation (“No matter how it happens …”). Women have more fears, they cannot afford those drastic measures that men consider completely normal: “Well, what do you allow yourself? You don’t know how this will affect the child and what fears he may have after you!”
Mothers tend to feel sorry for their child. In the culture of women’s upbringing, it is customary to feel sorry for the child, to yield to the child, to do for the child, to create comfortable living conditions for him. “Don’t overwork the child, he is still a child!”
A woman in a child loves a little one, a man loves an adult. The most affectionate from a woman: “You are my little one!”, With this she also rewards her beloved man when she feels tenderness for him.
When raising a child, mothers rarely plan the final result, they live the process of life. It is important for mom that the child is, that he is fed, that she loves him and that all this always happens, that everything is just fine …
Good means good, normal. A woman will never run into a specific desired result with the desired indicators — this is not female thinking. Women are more often process workers: it is important for them to ensure that everything goes in a normal way.
Women describe everything in the mode of the current process, reflecting mainly their feelings and states that accompany what is happening. A woman provides flow, involvement, warmth and support, the solution of private, current and tactical issues, in particular the correction of male drifts.
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