One night my wife and I went to the store — and suddenly we heard screams. I saw a guy who, it seemed to me, was dragging a girl along the asphalt by the hair. Then I realized — robs. He tries to snatch the bag, and the girl clung to it, yells «help, help» and drags along the ground after him. I just returned from the war. The bar dropped instantly. I don’t remember how I jumped the road — it seemed to me in two jumps six lanes — how I yelled “I’ll kill you, s***!!!”, how I ran after him. I realized myself only when I started to take out a knife, when I ran into the doorway after it — then the mind cut through, well, I think, now it will turn around the corner, and there its company of ten people. Fuck kill. So I took out a knife.
Thank God he dropped his bag. I stopped. Picked up the bag. On the way back I found a wallet — he threw it off earlier, but I did not notice. He returned: the girl was in tears: “I had everything there, wallet, money, passport, all documents ..”. I gave her a bag and a purse, and my wife tells me: while I was running after the robber through the gates, the cops drove up. They ask «What happened?» The wife shouts to them: faster, faster, here my husband ran after the robber, over there, in that gateway, faster, you will still catch up with them!
Do you know what the cops did after that? They sat down and left. They just sat down and left.
So I think: it’s good that that guy ran fast. Otherwise, I would be sitting now either in a wheelchair (if there were still ten of them) — or I would be in prison. But how? After the war, this is generally a big problem — you come to your senses, and there is already a corpse under your feet. Killed — in jail. After all, even protecting yourself from a robber, you always run the risk of going to jail …
And why am I telling this? I’m not that twenty-year-old dancer anymore. Now I’m forty, I have a family and a daughter. And when I watch a video of how two masked men put the owner of the Bentley in the middle of broad daylight in the trunk and drive away, I don’t know what I would do now. It doesn’t matter if they have a prank in their head or not. The situation is only as real as you perceive it to be. For those around it, it was definitely a real kidnapping. And now I’m not at all sure that, faced with such a situation, I will be ready for the option of “leaving my child an orphan”. But I also don’t want to answer the question later on — dad, why did you stand when a woman was kidnapped in front of your eyes.
I don’t want to be faced with the choice of “prison or grave”, faced with violence happening before my eyes, but I want every woman who cares about her safety to have the opportunity to get a gun out of her purse, shoot the bastard in the knee, after which we would wave to each other with a pen smiled and went about their business. And I, in turn, could help her from a distance of twenty meters, and not running after the bandits through the doorways at night with my bare hands.
In a situation where the cops, seeing the violence, turn around and leave, I think that every person is everyone! should have the right to protect himself and those around him. I am for the fact that I could protect a woman with a weapon. I am for the fact that if a woman has been trained and knows how to use a weapon, she should have at least some means of self-defense in her purse. A spray can, a knife, a shocker, a wasp, a sharpened screwdriver, or anything else. Better to be judged by twelve than carried by six.
And now the main thing: having posted this post, I received a lot of comments from women who are against weapons of self-defense even when a woman needs to be protected from violence.
Lovely Women, ca. If you don’t want to defend yourself, ok. It is your right. But please. In this case, I beg you very much: when you find yourself in a critical situation — and our life is now such that it is not “if”, but “when”, then please do not shout “help” in this case.
I fully respect your right to be killed, raped, maimed, but please respect then you my right not to be killed and maimed for your life if you do not want to defend it yourself. I also have a family, children, life. I don’t want to lose either one or the other or the third.
And, if it’s not difficult for you, please make a sticker — “I am against weapons, I don’t want to defend myself, please, don’t help me either, I think you should call the police.” Then, with a clear conscience, I will be able to pass by you, who are being killed in the gateway, to call the police from a safe place for you and not violate your right to defenselessness.
Ideally, opponents of weapons in general would need to come up with some kind of identification mark for themselves. Let’s say a red circle. Or a black parallelogram. And wear it on your clothes. So that others around you do not suffer from your choice not to defend yourself, who, obeying instinct, rush to save you instead of you.
Please do not shift this duty of yours to me while advocating that I can do it without risking my own life.
I think it will be fair.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
Topics of conversation: What kind of woman do you need to be in order to successfully marry? How many times do men get married? Why are there so few normal men? Childfree. Parenting. What is love? A story that couldn’t be better. Paying for the opportunity to be close to a beautiful woman.
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