With whom you can build relationships, and with whom it is better not to mess with

Until you have an image of who you are looking for, you can meet dozens of people, but it will be a blind search. To find out that your person is nearby, you need to have his image. Therefore (we mean the search for your woman. The search for your man is similar):

• Create a positive image. Optimally — to create her image. You must see it, feel it, feel it, it must become a reality for you. The degree of specificity, details of the image is medium. To find out, you need details for recognition, but in order not to accidentally weed out, there should be no extra details. In which cap it should appear and come up to the left or right — this is already superfluous.
• Let go of negative images. If the image is not created: “I don’t know what kind of woman I want” — Eliminate the images of women that you do not want. I don’t want a fat redhead in knee high boots. To not smoke. Look at women and ask: do you allow this or not? You will start to answer: “No, she cannot have such a look … Such phrases … Such intonations …”
• Look for your relationship. It is important to interest yourself in close relationships — find couples with relationships that you like. Imagine that you are in this relationship. Warm? And who then should be next to you?
• Take a break from other people’s relationships. Look at the couples and ask yourself: is this going to happen in your relationship or not? And weed out everything you won’t have.
• List the necessary qualities of a partner (partner). Then delete everything superfluous that you can do without. Leave the essentials. Think about the fact that you can create a family with any good person. After that, perhaps you will look around and see such people not far from you. These good people just needed to be noticed and seen.

Expectations from Denis Shvetsov

It’s no secret to everyone who knows me that I’m looking for a wife. Yes, yes, just a wife, and not a mistress for a little bit. In this regard, questions are constantly raised that are asked by the most daring, about “What kind of woman are you looking for, Denis?”. I came up with the idea to talk about it here on the site. Maybe it will help you find your soul mate faster.

The most important thing for me in a woman is:

1. The values ​​that are the same with me in life and a strong conviction that everything in a person’s life depends on him. As a special case — the understanding that the person himself is responsible for all his internal states, and not circumstances, weather, random people, etc. I need a companion who does not faint from my statement that I control my emotions and feelings (and Love too), but on the contrary, rejoices and thanks fate for this, realizing that this is a guarantee of quality relationships for many, many years .
2. Love for sports and a penchant for harmony. Desirable — height below mine (mine — 180 cm).
3. Willingness to start a relationship in an unusual way: first, honestly and openly find out all the pros and cons and other details about each other, and only then dipping into all that romance, which is not a main course, but a flavoring seasoning.
4. Understanding and acceptance of the fact that at the moment, other things being equal, my priority is work (that is, Sinton and psychology).

Expectations from N.I. Kozlova

Personally, it would be difficult for me with a person who is emotionally unbalanced, prone to go to extremes: either immoderately admire, then panic. Maybe he will be bright and sweet, but it will be difficult with him in the family. Probably, it would be important for me to see how this person behaves when faced with difficulties, problems, having experienced a serious loss … Is he sagging or becoming more collected? Angry at everyone and everything or remain calm and optimistic?

In total, we fix the point: emotional stability, so that there are no mood swings,

I would definitely be very wary of linking fate with negativists and spiteful critics, in whom two emotions prevail (and, apparently, are loved): indignation and resentment.

We go with her, she is indignant: “No, well, can you imagine ?!” — here she makes expressive round eyes and looks at me, urging me to share her feelings. “Well, how is that possible? After all, a person should have elementary education?! Naturally, I was offended … »

Now we are talking about the third person, but it is not difficult for me to guess that if in a minute I make some kind of mistake, say an unintentional stupidity, stumble or step on her foot, the whole stream of indignation will fall on me. And I don’t like feeling like a fool or guilty…

So, a mandatory requirement is a high emotional tone, positive, Inner Good, Sunshine.

For me, the position of the Creator in a person is important: the naturalness of the fact that you can live and take care not only about yourself. Interest in people, concern for people, lack of centropupism, where «I» is in the center of the universe. However, perhaps this refers to the «single values».

A prerequisite is the ability and willingness to put up after quarrels. After a quarrel, you need to cool down, come up, start a conversation in a kind way, admit that you are wrong (usually both are wrong) and calmly discuss what happened, drawing the necessary conclusions for the future. Who suddenly categorically does not know how (and such, unfortunately, happen) is not our person. Never contact him.

And, of course, I would never get involved with a person with whom it is impossible to talk about relationships. I know how important it is for a family: to be able to speak openly, discuss and negotiate (including relationships, including when there is a quarrel).

Oddly enough, not every married couple (even with great experience) knows how to do this. Terrible husband, who just yells. A terrible wife who is almost silent. «What happened to you? — Nothing … — Are you offended? — No … Well, what did I do? “Guess for yourself…” — such people should not be allowed close to the family.

In a broader sense, I need a peace-loving person who is not inclined to just unleash hostilities. The one who is prone to smile is always closer to me than the one who is prone to swearing. Most of all I will be lucky if I find a person who knows how to be happy himself, loves and knows how to make others happy.

If you are like that, you and your neighbors can only be envied.