Wise Wife’s Obedience

I have a wonderful family, but I still really need this Distance exercise. Tasks I have set for myself:

• We discuss serious issues together, and on trifles I do everything as my husband says, even if he is wrong.
• I am learning to appreciate my husband, I often use the phrases: Yes, dear. As you say, so I will do. Lord, how smart you are!
• I agree easily, without melancholy and inner protest. If I am told, I do it right away, not when it becomes comfortable.
• If I have an internal disagreement, I first do what I was told, and discuss later: in a calm atmosphere, when there is time for this.
• When my husband wants to take responsibility, I kiss him. I like to make my husband the head of the family.

I fix on a 10-point scale where I am at the beginning of the exercise and where at the end of the study regarding this statement: “An obedient wife: easily, without internal protests, I accept my husband’s decisions and carry them out, only in serious matters can I act as I consider most advantageous for solving the problem; I easily express my admiration for my husband. I also use my husband’s peer review by asking what he thinks of my obedience at the beginning of the exercise and after working through.

Managed to catch a few small «disobedience». This is a joy, because a whole field has opened up for establishing even warmer and more harmonious relations in our family. For example: we are in the store, shopping. I have a bag on my shoulder, empty, but voluminous. Passing by shelves with some bottles, I must have touched one of the bottles. The husband says: «Be careful, you touch the bottles.» The first reaction is none. It flew into one ear …. Even somewhere there is irritation — they say, nothing has fallen, why is he talking? But then I realized that this is what manifested itself — «disobedience in small things.» Obediently, she took off her bag from her shoulders and said to her husband, “And, indeed, it’s also much safer and you don’t hurt anything or anyone.”

Before doing the exercise, my husband gave me a grade of “9” on a scale from 1 to 10, after working out I got a “ten”

My thoughts that I found curious:

When I started this exercise, I saw the image of a nun in a headscarf, which folded her paws. But then I decided that I would not just be obedient-and-point, but active and obedient, cheerful and obedient. Came the image of a pioneer-to all-guys-example. So it became more fun and easier to work out the exercise.

Maryana Shmelkova, also a student at the University, contributed to this topic. She wrote the Woman’s Obedience Manifesto, and in fact she formulated her requirements for the man to whom she would obey. Well, not every man a smart woman will demonstrate obedience?

​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​I obey a man who gets up before me, thinks through his day, including taking care of himself, family, children, his business. He knows how to keep himself in a resourceful state and can teach this to others.

I obey a man who informs me about his plans, values, aspirations, I am ready to support him in everything. I know exactly what time I should have breakfast, lunch, dinner ready, because in the evening he asked me about it, I obey him. I understand that there may be deviations, because he can change his plans and he is responsible for this.

I obey a man who cares about his health. He definitely does morning exercises, introduces children to this.

I obey a man who appreciates time and knows that every day lived gives a result that serves as an investment in tomorrow.

I obey a man who jokes, is easy to communicate, but at the same time follows the format and clearly knows what should be the result of such communication. I obey a man who is the best “warmer” for me, made me think and who knows how to say it with great love and care, showing his understanding and support.

I obey a man to whom I am infinitely grateful for what he does for me, my children, my parents and relatives, who takes care of me, about my happy old age, who expresses his love to me and I constantly feel his participation in my life, who finds time to communicate with me, he himself tells me a lot and rejoices when I share something with him, he is always on my side. He notes that I do all the same points to him easily and joyfully.

I obey a man for whom the word “I don’t care” does not exist, because he always knows exactly what he wants, what he needs, what he will get in the end.

I obey a man whom I endlessly love and respect, whom I can “reproach”, for whom I am ready to do a lot, represent his interests, educate myself, and he sees this, he appreciates it and strengthens it in me.

Reply to comments

Is it really pleasant in adulthood (and if you decide to start a family, then a person must be mature) to play pioneer? Yes, and get marks “for good behavior” … No, well, to each his own, of course .. there are girl wives, until old age in bows, and it’s scary to say a word across — what if they don’t approve? IMHO this is the consequences of parental control in childhood. The girl grew up, but looking back at the elder remained. Maybe that’s just easier to live? It is only interesting, but how to raise children, if you still need the constant approval of your husband?

N.I. Kozlov

I answer: it’s nice to play pioneer. Try it: peppy energetic intonations, lively eyes — it’s great. Only the exercise is about something else and for other purposes. The obedience of a wise wife is an exercise for those women who want to be married to worthy men and want to be able to love such — very worthy! — men. And being married to a high-level man is not easy. Firstly, there are not many such men, but there are many women who want to be with him. And you should be his choice. Further: worthy men are demanding, they do not forgive stupidity, indiscipline and an absent-minded lifestyle — traits characteristic of a mass personality. He always learns himself, and in order to be on a level with him, a woman must also always learn.

If you want to work in a high position, you must qualify for it. You must learn both professional skills and professional etiquette, and most importantly, you must become a person who will look appropriate next to other high personalities. You should have a clean and competent speech, good posture, you should stop objecting and not weaving a little, learn to listen carefully, smile pleasantly and compliment — and also be able to clearly formulate your thoughts and requirements (note — to formulate right away, and not in the process of a long conversation, until she herself understands what she wanted to say), to be able to control herself and her emotions, to be able to subordinate and obey. All this needs to be learned. Including — to learn subordination, and this is not easy.

It’s not easy, but necessary. The fact is that worthy men agree to only one type of family — a family where they are the head of the family. They are leaders and they deserve it. Why do they need something else? And a woman who wants to be married (read carefully: FOR a worthy HUSBAND), next to this will be happy.

Dear women! Do you want to be free and live without obligation? You have the right. But who needs you then as wives? And if you choose to be really FOR THE HUSBAND, then you need to learn this. Happiness to you!