Hello! I have a similar situation, I’m interested to hear your opinion! My wife and I have two children, when my first daughter was born, I worked all the time, a lot of business trips, but I tried very hard to take the maximum part in her life, but work is work, then my son was born, it so happened that I generally had to go to another country, because of work, again, I hardly participated in raising my son, I don’t come as often as I would like, so far I can’t bring them here, but I will do it! Now my problem is that my wife always accuses me of raising children alone, I try to explain to her that I work not only for myself, but so that they do not need anything! I say right away — there is no second family, and there is no mistress either! Thank you very much in advance.
The text of the request is literate, which means that a certain level of culture is present. Good: there is a chance that small hints (sorry, I can’t allocate time for a detailed article) will still help. So, in place of the husband — I am.
— You are never there, I am raising children alone, it is terribly hard for me!
— You are my good and beloved, I know that it is very hard for you, and I really appreciate that you are holding on. This helps me a lot!
But you can’t live like this! Children do not see their father, I have no husband!
— Do not be noisy. Do you want me to shout that I do not see my children and live without a wife, despite the fact that I work for them for months and bring money to the family? It’s hard for you and it’s hard for me. But yelling won’t help. Make now, please, dinner, and in the evening I suggest we take a walk and think about what options we have.
— And what to discuss, you will leave anyway!
— I understand. It seems to me that you do not hear me and want to quarrel. I do not want to quarrel with you, so I stop the conversation and leave. When you want to talk like a human being, as if you missed me and are glad to see me, call me. I miss you.
I pack my things and leave without reacting to anything else. Finally, with a smile — «Call!».
Will call. When he calls, I ask: “Did you miss me? I want to see you!»
— Well then come!
— I can not yet. You haven’t calmed down yet and you’ll make noise. I will come only when you meet me with a warm smile, delicious dinner and joy. The first reproach — and we part again. When will you invite me home to meet with joy?
And so on.
And where will the beloved go? Everything will be fine soon!