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Why with the increase in vaccinated infidelity will grow
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The heat, vaccines and relaxation of measures create a context that encourages cases of infidelity
Although it can be said that there are few things that can excuse a infidelity, an act that involves, in general, a great betrayal, yes there can be multiple reasons why it occurs. In itself an infidelity is to look outside the couple for something that you feel you do not have.
Ramón Méndez Rodríguez, sexologist and individual and couple therapist at Ruth González Terapia, comments that there are different reasons why a person can look outside what you are not finding in your partner. “Sometimes this external search is motivated by different problems in the couple: coexistence, compatibility, sexuality, values, financial problems …”, explains the professional. Even so, he comments that in other cases this search is simply based on personal wishes of one of the members of the couple or a different evolution of each one.
Beyond the reason why someone is unfaithful, keep in mind that not everyone considers the same things an infidelity. For example, the sexologist comments that one can be unfaithful in the ‘real’ field, but also in the ‘online’. “From sporadic sex, having a lover, or going on a date, to having online conversations with another person, doing ‘sexting’ or using a dating app”, the professional gives as examples, who remembers that each couple is the one who establishes the needs and limits of each one and what is considered infidelity, depending on the agreement.
Summer, the perfect situation
Sonia and Selena sang that “when the heat comes, the boys fall in love.” Although it may be that if we talk about infidelity it takes a little more with tweezers. As if it were a summer love, in the summer season infidelities often increase. “There are studies that show that more are produced in summer. It is a vacation period where people rest, there is more free time, they seek to disconnect from their routine and seek new experiences outside the usual environment, “explains Ramón Méndez Rodríguez, who sums up the idea: summer is the perfect breeding ground for oneself. can give an infidelity.
Can everyone be unfaithful?
“We have ‘something inside’ that invites us to explore, to discover, and to seek new experiences; and this sometimes means doing it outside of the couple as well, ”says Ramón Méndez Rodríguez, sexologist and individual and couple therapist at Ruth González Terapia.
We start from the base, assures the sexologist, that we are not genetically programmed for monogamy, “As several studies have shown.” “We can all be unfaithful at some point or we can question traditional fidelity and seek different agreements with our partner. In this way, traditional monogamy is opening up more and more in diverse models that depend on each individual and each couple, ”he says.
Likewise, the professional explains that the lack of communication in couples causes that many times needs and limits are not expressed. «By not expressing themselves, it seems that they do not exist and they hide under the rug. It is precisely this lack of communication that leads to this feeling of deception and betrayal, ”he points out.
In addition to the arrival of heat, the increase in vaccinations and the relaxation of sanitary measures create a context that encourages infidelity. “After all the period of containment and fear that we have gone through, we are in transition to a search for freedom and new experiences. And this can come from the hand of wanting to explore also outside the couple, especially coinciding with the summer period, “says Ramón Méndez.
Silvia Rubies, spokesperson for Gleeden, an app specialized in extramarital relationships, comments that the summer of 2020 had the highest months in terms of number of registrations and connections. “That was because the rules were relaxed; This summer of 2021, together with the vaccine and the desire to interact and have a normal life again, it is making it a good season, the registrations are going up and the connections are also going up », explains the professional.
Vaccines, key to ‘the return’
According to a recent survey carried out by the app, 81% of its users explain that it is a very important factor to feel safe, and that they do so because the majority of users are already vaccinated (71%), at least with a dose of the vaccine. 41% say they will wait until the end of June (to be fully vaccinated) to resume your extramarital affairs.
Confinement (which was a great challenge for many couples) and the fear and prohibition of meeting other people increases the desire to explore, meet and test. The greater the prohibition and the frustration, the more the desire needs to be released. “Are we facing a pressure cooker?” Asks Ramón Méndez Rodríguez. He thinks that at the end of the year, and especially in 2022, it will be when we will see what is the real impact that the pandemic had on couples, and whether or not we will talk about more infidelities.