Why we don’t like to ask

Psychologist Abigail Mansfield (Abigail Mansfield) and her colleagues named ten common reasons¹for which we hesitate to ask for advice or help.

• We are afraid to jeopardize our independence.
• We see asking for help as a weakness.
• We are afraid to show others that something is not working out for us.
• We are afraid that we will be denied.
• We are afraid of being pushy.
• We don’t want to hand over responsibility for our lives to others.
• Our problems seem insignificant to us.
• We don’t want to be in someone’s debt.
• We don’t want others to know that we have problems.
• We like to feel that we can do without someone else’s help.

¹ Psychology Positive, 2016, № 5.