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We are used to seeing shyness as a negative quality: many seek to get rid of it in order to become more determined and open. But in reality, modesty, sometimes even excessive, can become our good friend. Let’s talk about the peculiarity of this character trait.
Shy people have a lot in common with those who suffer from social anxiety disorder – their behavior shows the same features, only developed to a much lesser extent. Which, of course, affects the quality of life, so you need to work with your shyness.
This does not mean that you need to go into self-abasement and start fighting with your peculiarity. It is much better if you accept it and try to see the benefits that shyness gives you.
1. Your modesty is attractive
Many find shyness attractive. You just need to be careful and not move from modesty to self-flagellation – we are talking about a healthy manifestation of this trait.
To keep the balance, remember 3 rules:
- graciously accept compliments;
- always recognize and do not downplay your achievements;
- defend your desires and principles if you feel that you are being used in the interests of others.
2. You think before you act
This trait can be useful in making many life decisions: you tend to plan everything in advance, so you can more easily cope with long-term goals and know how to avoid unnecessary risks.
But sometimes it’s worth gathering your strength into a fist and stepping into the unknown without making any calculations – especially in those moments when fears and doubts are trying to take control of your life.
3. You have a calming effect
People who are in a nervous state can calm down next to you. However, this is not surprising – a shy person, as a rule, even experiencing inner turmoil, outwardly remains quiet and calm. And it is this “mask” of equanimity that positively affects others.
When helping others, do not forget about yourself, because you do not have to cope with your experiences alone. It is enough to take off the “mask” and seek help from loved ones. I’m sure they will support you.
4. You are trusted more than others
Because you don’t blow your horn about your accomplishments, and you don’t pull the blanket over yourself in companies, people around you may find you a more pleasant person. And, more importantly, the best keeper of secrets.
5. You are able to overcome difficulties
If you have been “fighting” with shyness all your life, then you don’t know what it means to overcome difficult feelings. It was your shyness that taught you to cope better than many with life’s difficulties.
6. You know how to be friends
Most likely, all the friendships that you managed to establish are deep and lasting. Since you don’t make friends so easily, you appreciate those who are already around. Your dislike of small talk also suggests that your friendship can hardly be called superficial.
7. It is easier for you to concentrate on work
All employers want their employees to be able to focus on the tasks at hand, regardless of whether they work in separate rooms or in a common space. In this case, shyness can play into your hands – without being distracted by strengthening a large number of social connections, you will be better than others focused on work.
8. You get more pleasure from pleasant little things.
Studies show that the brains of shy people respond more strongly not only to negative but also to positive stimuli. Therefore, pleasant events, even the most insignificant ones, bring you much more joy than those around you.