The relationship of star couples is often characterized by short-term and skepticism from the public. We know many examples of unsuccessful marriages and PR campaigns in the form of short-lived, but bright and spectacular relationships. All the more interesting is the phenomenon of Blake and Ryan. The couple will celebrate XNUMX years of marriage in September. They have three children. And for many, this is the standard of a happy marriage. What is their secret? The psychiatrist speaks.
Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively will celebrate 2022 years of marriage in XNUMX. This happy couple destroys a lot of stereotypes about famous families. They practically have no haters.
In addition, it is often believed that a rapidly developing relationship does not lead to a strong marriage. However, Reynolds and Lively bought their first joint apartment a few months after the start of the novel, and a little later they played a secret wedding in South Carolina.
However, the happiness of the spouses is not the result of wonderful luck, psychiatrist Alexei Kiryukhin is sure.
“Firstly, the couple captivated their fans with numerous jokes about each other, and quite bold and bright. Such jokes in many other people in a relationship could cause emotions completely opposite to laughter and joy, including resentment. All this indicates that Ryan and Blake have the ability to self-irony, which is one of the most important signs of healthy self-esteem, ”the specialist notes.
According to him, a person’s self-esteem determines the degree of mutual respect, a favorable psychological climate within the family. Low self-esteem causes frequent resentment, jealousy, which leads to frequent quarrels and, as a result, the collapse of the union. The formation of a healthy and adequate self-esteem is not an easy task. Psychologists and psychotherapists often help with this.
“We don’t know if the couple turned to the services of specialists, but Ryan mentioned in an interview that he suffers from an anxiety spectrum disorder, which suggests contacting a psychotherapist,” Kiryukhin emphasizes.
Secondly, the fact that Lively and Reynolds began dating after several years of friendship is important, even if then their romance began to develop at a high speed.
“The fact is that at the beginning of a romantic relationship with a stranger, when choosing a partner, external data and the attractiveness of the image as a whole come to the fore. If the relationship begins already between friends or well-known people, then personal qualities, compatibility of characters and temperaments, common tastes and interests play a more important role — that is, what in the future can become the foundation of a strong, healthy and happy relationship » Alexey Kiryukhin says.
Blake has repeatedly noted in interviews that she considers Ryan a friend and can trust him completely at the most difficult moment of her life. Blake is also known to get along well with her mother-in-law and has helped Ryan reconnect with his father. They have one view of family values. By the way, many believe that it was the disagreements in the issue of parenthood that caused Ryan Reynolds to divorce Scarlett Johannson, who did not want to have children.
“Thirdly, the couple knows how to clearly set personal boundaries. A common mistake in a relationship is a complete immersion in a partner, merging with him. Many are even proud of it: «my soul mate and I are one.» What does this lead to? With complete immersion in a partner, boundaries are erased. It becomes difficult to understand where your own feelings, desires and needs are, and where your partner is. He seems to be just like you. As a result, a person loses himself and his partner. In the life of Ryan and Blake, everyone has their own separate space: their own interests, desires, values. But, at the same time, there is something that unites the spouses. Both of them are successful in cinema, while they have their own projects in business, sports and charity. And this is the case when partners motivate and support each other at the right time, ”concludes the psychiatrist.