The relationship between aunt and nephews is a special relationship. And mom and dad cannot replace her in any way.
Aunt is a person who knows the child from birth… Who is most often asked to sit with a baby if grandparents suddenly cannot? So it turns out that the aunt knows the baby’s habits, knows how to understand his emotional outbursts. In addition, she clearly has more strength and endurance than her grandmothers. This is only for the children: the aunt is ready to have fun and play when the grandmother already dreams only of a cup of cocoa and a cozy blanket.
You can communicate with your aunt as equals. She certainly has authority as an older relative. But she is not a mother, therefore, the relationship with her is different. Sometimes it is even easier to find a common language with her, because the aunt does not have a goal of continuously instructing the child on the right path. The time she spends with her nephew is fun. Although the aunt can spoil and spoil the nephew a little bit, which is already there.
You can go to your aunt with such a problem, which you can’t tell your parents. Well, or you say, but scary. And an aunt can listen to her nephew without anger, disappointment, without accusations. And support in a difficult situation, based on your own experience.
Aunt is an opportunity to look at any problem from the outside… Her opinion will certainly differ from that of her parents. And at the same time, you are not ashamed to share something really important with her, because the aunt is part of the family, a dear person. Besides, aunts are usually more delicate with children than parents.
An aunt is needed to form strong family ties., family values. The child sees your trusting and warm communication with your sister and with a high degree of probability will transfer this format of relationships to his own communication with brothers and sisters. And what could be more important than a large strong family?
The aunt gives the child the opportunity to look at the parents with different eyes.… You have created in the eyes of the baby one image that he knows from birth. And your aunt has known you for much longer. Her stories from childhood, memories can reveal you for a child from a completely different side. Perhaps this will help you and your baby to understand each other better. In addition, stories about parental youth – without embellishment, without these “Here I am at your age! ..” – it is very interesting.
An aunt can be a valuable mediator, if suddenly you and your son or daughter disagree. She will help to convey to everyone the opinion of the other, because she is still being listened to and heard. While my children and I often just prove our case, without listening to the opinion of the other side. Aunt is a kind of arbitrator who keeps neutrality, and therefore is able to remain objective.
In conce, aunt is a person who loves your child almost like his own. And one more loving person is never superfluous.
Svetlana Boyarinova, family psychologist:
– By aunt, we mean here not only the sister of mom or dad, but also an aunt in the broadest sense of the word – a close friend of parents, godmother, a kind distant relative (it is no coincidence that they are called that – aunt) … This is why an aunt is needed: far away not everything can be told to those closest to you, not everything can be entrusted to the father and mother without fear of their response. Yes, and additional advice from an adult well-known person sometimes will not be superfluous. You can open to him much deeper and wider. However, teach your child that not everything is worth telling an aunt: if there is a secret in the family, then an aunt, even the most positive one, should not know it.