Good day to all! They say that a person who has no goals and aspirations is like a ship without a helm and a captain, which simply drifts in the vastness of the ocean, risking crashing on reefs. Indeed, when we do not know exactly where we want to arrive, we just go with the flow, waiting for a miracle that will lead to something good. And today I want to invite you to consider the dangers that a life without purpose leads to, as well as the reasons why this happens.
Dangers and Consequences
From previous articles, such as those on gambling addiction and social networking, for example, you know that
Addiction is an unconscious way to take your own life.
When a person does not find other ways to realize his energy and needs. The same can be said about aimlessness. The condition experienced at such a moment is very similar to depression, which, as you know, can affect physical health, in extreme cases leading to suicide or death.
In support of my words, I want to cite as an example the results of research by scientists from the Japanese Medical University. They followed a group of 43 people for seven years, 5% of whom claimed to have no purpose in life. At the end of the research, scientists provided stunning results. 3 subjects died due to suicide or disease. The number of deaths from the aimless group exceeded the number of purposeful ones by one and a half times. The most common cause was cerebrovascular disease.
Indeed, when a person does not know what he wants, does not plan his activities, he seems to be suffocating. He spends every minute of his life in confusion and anxiety, not satisfying his needs, except for physiological ones. That’s why I gave an analogy with zombies who wander in search of food, which they are not satisfied with and do not experience satisfaction or joy.
Causes
- Lack of responsibility for your life. Because of the fear of being responsible for the consequences of their actions, it is easier for a person to spend all his energy looking for excuses or to blame. After all, it is much easier to say that it was the parents who chose the University with an uninteresting profession for him. It’s harder to admit to yourself that you made the wrong choice or that you weren’t ready to make it. And now, instead of correcting the situation and taking the risk of exploring the areas that attract, just out of habit, day after day, doing what does not bring pleasure. When an infantile, that is, an irresponsible person, expects a “good wizard” or a “miracle” without acting on his own, it only leads to disappointment.
- Low self-esteem. Unfortunately, sometimes it happens that a person believes that he does not deserve something. He gets used to satisfying the interests of others, who, in his opinion, are worthy and happier. The reason lies in childhood, when parents and others blamed, devalued or ignored him. And here are two options for the development of events, either he, growing up, seeks to win the recognition of others, or vice versa, he believes that he has no right to desire something, and even more so, he is incapable of achieving.
- Fear of failure. Living the shame of failure is sometimes so toxic that a person makes a choice in favor of inaction, is ready to give up his desires and ambitions, just not to face it. It is easier to put up with what you have without leaving your comfort zone than to move towards the realization of the goal, being afraid to make things worse. And for this, people are ready to endure a lot, even violence and the realization that life is meaningless and empty.
- Ignorance. At school, we are taught a lot, but, unfortunately, they ignore the most important thing — the ability to set goals and achieve them. Sometimes parents, because they themselves do not understand how this is done, cannot transfer knowledge and skills to children. These children over time simply do not realize the importance of this process.
Ways of solution
- First of all, of course, it is important to think about the meaning of your life, why it was given to you and what you can do for yourself and others. When a person does not know why he lives, then, of course, he will have difficulties with desires and aspirations. Where do you get the energy and strength to get out of bed every morning? Read the article about the search for the meaning of life, it will help to deal with this issue.
- Now it’s time to define the goal. But there are pitfalls that you can stumble upon, namely, problems with motivation. Those. over time, the realization that the goal is not the same, and sometimes there are obstacles on the way that you don’t want to overcome. The presence of the goal itself helps to mobilize the resources of the body, give energy and inspiration, but this is not enough. It is necessary to clearly define the deadlines for achieving it, analyze ways to solve possible difficulties, and, of course, draw up a step-by-step plan. This will give a sense of responsibility for the process, such is the human psychology that requires awareness. Otherwise, there will be a risk of returning to the comfort zone at the slightest turmoil, shifting the blame to circumstances and continuing to go with the flow. I recommend reading an article on effective time management, where I described in detail the ways to plan activities. As well as directly an article on the correct setting of goals.
- Having felt the rise of energy, it is important to immediately begin to act in order to exclude the possibility of returning to the usual state. Work on self-esteem, identify the factors that will motivate you to be active, there are many articles on the blog that will help you.
- Remember, zombies do not live a rich and joyful life filled with impressions and different experiences? That is why make your own variety by playing sports, going on a trip, or even just for a walk in the park. Start doing what you habitually refused to do. Maybe you have been called for a date or a visit for a long time, but for some reason you stubbornly resisted? It is time to change the everyday way of life and get closer to yourself, to notice yourself. Meditation can help with this, with the help of which you will not only improve your health, but also look into your soul, listen to thoughts and be able to notice reality. Do not look for excuses, read an article on the basics of meditation, and by devoting at least 10 minutes a day, you will already start to change your life a little bit.
- Reconsider your attitude to failures, because otherwise, if you were not mistaken, how could you gain experience and knowledge? This is actually a resource and an opportunity for personal development. There is not a single person who has not made mistakes and has not had situations in his life history for which he is ashamed or embarrassed.
Conclusion
That’s all, dear readers! Live, but do not exist, appreciate every day you live, do not put it off for later, let zombies be only in films, and I wish you joy and success! Subscribe to updates, we will move towards our goals together. I periodically report on my goals here on the blog.