Surely you are familiar with such a situation when there are many irregularities in a relationship with a person, and this is not about the usual quarrels that sooner or later arise between all people — alas, we are not perfect. No, we are talking about specific disgusting behavior on the part of your loved one. Sometimes it seems that a truly dear person cannot do us some serious muck. Maybe if he doesn’t like it.
And so you begin to distance yourself, to establish your personal life with another partner who has become a breath of fresh air for you, he is interesting to you, and you to him. Everything is wonderful and life is improving on all fronts. And then your close problematic person appears, who is emotionally dear anyway — it cannot be otherwise. And now he asks you to return, says that he has corrected himself or will correct himself in the process of further relations. He, of course, drew conclusions, understood what he was, conditionally, a goat (we are talking not only about men) and is ready to change for the better. You come back because you love. You still have thoughts that if he says such words, it means that he still loves, that means he wants to return, you are dear to him. It happens, of course, but very rarely. Ask yourself a question:
Who is not loved, but also not released?
Slave. It’s so simple and concise.
A person who is easy to use. Which brings benefits, profit, money, perhaps comfort while being nearby. Remember ancient Roman slaves. Did their owners love them? Of course not, they were just a useful thing in the household, so they were not released. How stupid do you have to be to let go of free labor?
Benefits for your partner, but not for you
Think about how your negligent partner benefits from the relationship:
- Emotional support. This person is dear to you, you will always support him. He can come at any moment and start telling how bad he is, how many problems he has, and you will not refuse to help him. Connect your friends, take an active part, but do not leave in trouble
- Energy support. Whether you like it or not, when communicating between people, an energy exchange involuntarily occurs. In a couple, there is always a partner who gives more — receives less, and vice versa. Do you need it — decide for yourself. This energy parasitism will have an extremely negative impact on your well-being and psycho-emotional state.
- material benefit. It is always convenient to come to a warm apartment, where you will be given water, food and warmth. No need to rent a hotel room and order food. You give gifts to a loved one, perhaps you repair his car, because “you don’t feel sorry for your own”. And it’s great that you are such a person, but let’s look at the situation more soberly. Your partner has various benefits from you, but what can he give you?
Open your eyes and soberly assess the situation, because it often happens that, returning you to a relationship over and over again, a person does not at all strive to return love, he seeks to return convenience in one way or another, depending on what you give him. Don’t let cheap tricks and manipulation put you back in that relationship. Move on and allow yourself to be happy.