And sometimes not only mother suffers, but also other children in the kindergarten. The psychologist told what could be the matter.
“He bit me, can you imagine?” A colleague, almost crying, shows a bruise on his arm. Her one and a half year old son went to the kindergarten, and it was as if he was replaced: he can hit his mother, he can bite.
Psychologists say that kindergarten is the place where the child faces the first trials in life. Here he is already learning to be independent, he shows his first attempts to stand up for himself and find friends. Not all children are ready for this. Then they begin to perceive the world around them with hostility and defend themselves even before they are attacked. This desire to defend itself is often manifested in the fact that the baby begins to bite.
To understand the reason for this “animal” behavior, it is necessary to find out when and how it started. If the baby bites even before going to the kindergarten, it means that not everything is going well at home, the child is psychologically uncomfortable.
“It all starts with the parents,” says psychologist Anna Garsh. “The child unconsciously copies their behavior.”
If conflicts, quarrels, constant screams and discontent often arose, then the child was exposed to stress. And if he was also scolded, then later he may experience such strong negative feelings as hatred and fear. Then start biting and even attacking.
“In my practice, there were cases when it seemed that children grew up in a loving family. But in reality it was only a mask. To keep them on line and not grow up spoiled, their parents forbade them a lot. The children could only sympathize, because they had already faced hypocrisy. As a result, the children began to bite their parents. But it also happens when adults are touched by such “nibbling”. Then the child realizes that this is good and continues in the same spirit. He can teach this to other children, ”the specialist continues.
Another reason that the baby bites and fights is his lack of self-confidence.
“It is very important to praise the child, albeit for small achievements,” the psychologist advises. – He must feel that he is doing everything right, that he is important. Otherwise, the baby will start biting to attract attention. Thus, he will subconsciously want to make others unpleasant, as he himself feels depressed and indifferent. “
To correct the situation, the child needs to be made clear that it hurts. For example, when he again takes his own, you can put a hand to his mouth and explain that you cannot do this and why. It is necessary to train him to show dissatisfaction with the help of words. Various role-playing games will help with this. After all, only on these models can a child safely acquire the initial skills, shall we say, of diplomatic communication.
“You also need to remember that the early years of life should be filled with positive emotions. It is at this moment that the baby’s first impressions and sensations about the world around him are laid in his memory. And they are the strongest and remain in the memory forever! ” – says Anna Garsh.