«If the stars are lit, then someone needs it.» If people see many shortcomings in themselves, it can be assumed that there is some interest and benefit behind this. What interest, what benefit?
Men love to fight, and war with their own shortcomings often captivates them in the same way as fighting external enemies.
If a guy has been told that he is a coward, he will take the riskiest steps to prove to everyone — and to himself — that this is not so. Knowledge of shortcomings for an active person acts as a strong negative motivation, and when a person calms down on the topic of his “shortcomings”, he often stops developing altogether. However, negative self-motivation is not the best driver of self-development. See →
Women love to feel sorry for themselves and complain to others, and women’s worries about their shortcomings are a wonderful pastime and a manipulative game that attracts sympathetic attention to the unfortunate victim and saves the unfortunate creature from the affairs that those who do not have these terrible shortcomings will undertake … ↑
How to deal with your own shortcomings
You need to take your shortcomings calmly, as a given, and not worry. Worrying is just a bad habit that can be unlearned just like smoking. If you don’t swear at yourself, then you have no flaws, you only have features. Really different. It is what it is. What you definitely cannot change — accept, sign and don’t worry about this anymore. Everything else is in our power, but not all at once. By taking one step each time, you can walk a thousand miles! See →