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Kiss your partner on the first date or wait for the second? Do it gently, passionately or … chastely? Everyone creates their own formula for the perfect kiss, and for men and women, it, like the very attitude to the process, is slightly different. We’ll tell you exactly how.
Kissing is the key to love. The one who is a good kisser can be sure that the partner will stay with him for life. Or at least for the whole evening. If you fail to impress, you may not be given a second chance.
“My colleagues have proven that kissing and the quality of kissing influence the course of a romantic relationship,” says psychologist Jeremy Nicholson. That’s why you shouldn’t underestimate them. The study, which was conducted in 2007, involved 1041 students. They filled out a questionnaire, and we analyzed their answers.”1.
What conclusions did the scientists come to?
- Both men and women use kissing to evaluate a future partner. Those who kiss well, a priori win in “marriage games”.
- Kissing strengthens the bond between partners. Therefore, at the very beginning of a relationship, a couple does this more often – unconsciously they seek to consolidate their union. But this does not mean that over time it is worth forgetting about kisses. Kissing for no reason is useful in any, even the longest partnership.
- Sex without kissing is (almost) impossible. Long, sensual kisses ignite passion, and they act equally on men and women. Not only kisses on the lips are important: the neck, collarbones, shoulders should not be left unattended.
What is important for a perfect kiss
- Grooming Clean skin, soft lips, a clean-shaven face or a neatly trimmed mustache and beard – this is noticed immediately after fresh breath and healthy teeth.
- Inclusion. The ability to go into a kiss “with your head”, not to kiss automatically, to do it with joy and enthusiasm.
- Touch. Passionate or gentle, light strokes or tight hugs – do whatever you like.
- Chastity. But it is appreciated, of course, mainly by women and most often on a first date: with a new partner, most women prefer chaste kisses, when their lips practically do not open. However, over time, everything will change: the more trust, the more passion.
Male and female approach to kissing
Kissing is more valued by women than by men: it is often after a kiss on the first date that women decide whether they should go on a second date.
But men are less picky. In addition, they are not interested in passion – they prefer not just sensual, passionate kisses, but also want a woman to demonstrate pleasure.
Women in general take kissing much more seriously – their presence or absence determines the status of the relationship for her. And of course, they rarely initiate kisses, unless they only want sex from a partner.
1 S. Hughes et al. «Sex differences in romantic kissing among college students: An evolutionary perspective», Evolutionary Psychology, 2007, № 5.