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Why do some people speak loudly to themselves
Psychology
Far from being a worrying habit, soliloquy could be emotional intelligence that helps motivation and find a better meaning in a specific situation
We’re not going to deny it: it’s funny when we catch someone talking alone in front of the mirror or in the kitchen, creating a totally fictional conversation that could happen in the future, and see how the person in question has created a complete dialogue for himself and the other part of the colloquium.
Conversations aloud with oneself are called soliloquies and they are a way that human beings have to organize our thoughts and emotions, and although it is not a practice that we all carry out, it is used when we want to motivate ourselves, calm down or prepare a speech that will take place in a short time.
Patricia Rosillo, psychologist at El Prado Psychologists, says that, in itself, it is not considered negative, “unless it is part of a psychological disorder such as delusions, psychotic disorder, etc.”, and says that this behavior rather “helps us to put order to our ideas “, our thoughts and emotions, to remember things, to encourage and motivate ourselves, to calm ourselves, to regulate ourselves emotionally …” It is as if in certain situations we could converse from a “higher” place with ourselves, such as if we could do an «inner self-role play» in which we converse with different parts of us or us in the same way as if we were talking and sharing what happens to us with a good friend, or someone you trust that helps us to calm down, remember something, make decisions, encourage ourselves … », clarifies the psychologist.
emotional intelligence
How wrong are those who call these conversations “crazy.” In reality, all of us do it at certain times in our lives and it would be part of our own emotional and cognitive development like human beings. On the other hand, for those who practice it almost daily, it could be a sign of greater emotional intelligence “since it helps to self-manage and order our internal world.” What is important is that, as Patricia Rosillo says, this self-dialogue “is as respectful and kind as possible” so that it helps us: “Beware of insulting us, disrespect us and reproach or punish us ».
In fact, experts in psychology do recommend this skill: “In our professional practice, our goal is to develop the reflective capacity or” mentalization “of people”, says the expert in psychology, so we can hold “conversations”, whether they are internally or out loud with one or oneself, a priori, is not a bad thing. «You can help us find a better meaning to a situation, to clarify ideas aloud, to learn something we are studying, to remain calm at certain times, to organize our minds and emotions … »
It is undoubtedly a healthy and useful practice where the person develops a healthier and more expansive inner self-dialogue that helps them live their life with well-being and face difficulties of life with greater abilities and stoicism.