This person does not want to pay money, and it is beneficial for him to play offended (and really feel offended).
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Resentment is not an innate emotion. Children learn to be offended in order to get their way from their parents faster.
One of my students writes:
“I learned to be offended consciously. I was 8-10 years old, guests from Armenia came to us, my father’s sister with children, the girl is 1.5 years older, and the boy is my age. The girl walked in beautiful dresses, and with the boy we constantly changed clothes, played war games, made wheels out of big bolts and played diesel fuel, ran in the rain through the mud and grazed cows, ran away from home to ride a horse, because my mother was against my hobbies… And when once again my mother scolded me for going camping with my brother, and my sister refused to go (she is a girl) said a few words that, through the prism of my childhood perception and time, were alone, but settled in me , as another «look at your sister and do as she does.» I started watching my sister and I liked it! I liked the fact that when she wanted to achieve something, she was offended and after a while the people around her simply and silently do whatever she wants!
For me it was magic!
Mom said that she is prettier than me and behaves like a girl!
After they left, I started doing chores around the house to be apart from people and started to get offended when I needed to be heard. Really offended! This began to bear fruit after a while, as it seemed to everyone that I was joking (after all, I have always been cheerful, cheerful and sympathetic). But I stubbornly showed my resentment, they soon began to believe me, and I learned to take offense seriously! However, by the age of 20 I got tired of it. But it turned out that now it was not easy to give up insults, and it took me 7 years of depression with serious psychosomatics for me to firmly say to myself: “That’s it, I play more insults!”
In adults, the purpose of resentment sometimes lies on the surface and is understandable: as a rule, this is pressure on a person’s feelings. Sometimes a person himself does not immediately understand the hidden meaning of his resentment, but a careful analysis, as a rule, reveals the conditional benefit of resentment.
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