Why do men love bitches?

what kind of woman is a bitch?

It would be easier to answer this question if there was a strict definition of which women we call that. Someone sees them in bold business women, someone in self-confident mistresses. And someone — in aggressive and nervous bosses.

This is how a bitch is usually described:

• «She doesn’t care what they think of her»;
• «Cunning and evil»;
• «Selfish, will not miss her»;
• «Hysterical»;
• «Bright and bold»;
• «Smart».

One way or another, one thing is for sure: the bitch is opposed to the image of a tender girl. “The behavior of a sweet girl seems to say: “What I can offer is not enough. Who I am is not enough,” emphasizes Sherry Argov, bestselling author of Why Men Like Bitches. “While the bitch delivers another message: “Who I am is enough. Take it or go.»

According to her, all the familiar men noted two features that characterize such women and attract their attention.

1. This is a woman who does not seem in need — neither in a man, nor in a relationship.
2. This is the woman who challenges him.

In other words, this is someone who does not depend on others and lives by their own standards and rules. One who has strength, self-confidence and a love of freedom.

Why do men still like bitches?

Michael, 34 years old:

“We want to conquer them, but this is only once. These are all legends — about love for bitches. No one likes a long brain drain.»

Gleb, 25 years old:

“Some men are drawn to such women for sporting interest, others to increase self-esteem. For the third, «home» guys, such cravings indicate a lack of adrenaline in life.

But bitches are different. There are moderately self-confident, who are sufficiently educated, have their own mind, opinion and some intelligent arrogance. It is partly because of their intelligence that they position themselves as bitches.

Such women attract attention not by relationships with them, but by sex. They are not afraid to do what the other type will not immediately do. Fight, bite, scratch. Do something out of the ordinary. But you won’t build a relationship with her. At least because the majority do not have the strength or desire to make her kinder to the world and to themselves.

Oleg, 26 years old:

“I would not say that we love bitches. They attract our attention, we can even fall in love with them. But no more. The fact is that they give a strong emotion, a challenge and a certain element of competition. We test ourselves with them. It’s a fight.»

Konstantin, 36 years old:

“A man is a hunter by nature, and a bitch woman always needs to be conquered. But perhaps no one wants to marry such a woman. Only to meet with her as a mistress. It’s not just a woman with a rod. As a rule, this is an emotionally unbalanced lady. It is unlikely that a mentally healthy man will want to connect his life with such a person.

Madonna or Whore

One of the reasons for the interest of men in bitches can be considered the complex of the Madonna and the Whore. “A man sees in you either the Madonna (mother) or the Whore (lover). A lover is any woman he wants to have sex with. Mother is her antipode. To her, a man feels tenderness and affection.

Since she is always there, sweet and comfortable in her own way, her presence begins to be taken for granted. Therefore, you can hear the words from men: “She is very sweet, but there was no chemistry between us. It didn’t work,” notes author Sherry Argov.

To put it simply, the following formula often works:

• Mother image + safety and stereotype = no spark.
• The image of a mistress + unpredictability and diversity = fireworks.

“Relationships with bitches are a competition for men”

Kirill Stepanov, sexologist:

“Why do men like bitches? The answer to this question lies largely in the culture of our society. It is patriarchal, which means that many men are forced to follow the rule «I’m a good man if I make a lot of money and provide for my family.»

Relations with such girls are an element of challenge, competition. Can I provide it? How good a provider am I? Am I better than the rest? In them, men again and again confirm their status in a patriarchal society — and for many, this is almost the meaning of life.

In addition, it is generally accepted that men are less emotional. They are more about something mundane, material, financial. And women, on the contrary, are more emotional — especially bitchy ones.

In this case, interest in bitches may also be due to a request for emotional service — when a man himself cannot live or realize his emotions, and he is helped by one in which the emotional component is highly developed.

And, of course, it’s about sex. Pronounced sexuality, elements of seduction — this is what attracts many men.