It often happens that wonderful parents have a child, as they say, “tear it off and throw it away”. Look around — we can say with confidence that any person will have good friends who have a difficult child. Today we will try to figure out why this is happening.
Are the parents to blame?
It is hardly possible to deny the guilt of parents if their child did not grow up like other children. Parents could hide some of their own problems, which ultimately affected their son or daughter. They could give too much, or, which is very bad, too little. They loved the child more than life or deprived him of attention. All these extremes will somehow affect the formation of their child. But it also happens that all the children in the family are absolutely normal, but only one child — the most perfect, excuse me, monster — is constantly in prison, gets into huge debts, and does unthinkable things. Either one son grew up kind and correct, and the second — a joker and a rake. Why does this happen so often?
Theory of several generations
There is a theory that once in a certain number of generations a child is born, in which the mistakes of all previous generations are collected. So, for many years, our grandparents, including those with the prefix -pra, their parents, and so on, had their own problems that were solved or not solved, remaining with them until the end of their lives. They made mistakes, but it was not all about behavior and they continued to live calmly and peacefully. And now a child is born, in which all these errors, problems, dependencies are brought together. The child grows up and more and more new “tricks” appear, the person begins to do simply unthinkable things, which turns the life of his parents into a real nightmare. It is worth citing the example of the son of Jules Verne. With such a father, the child, and then the young man, behaved in such a way that the writer’s authority had a very hard time, and in total he gave about three hundred thousand crowns for the tricks of his son and even sold his yacht, which he earned with wonderful works now known all over the world.
Two situations are possible here: parents either accept their child as he is, or not. In the first case, they make amends for all his mistakes, help to socialize, bring him “to his senses” and teach him to live more correctly according to social norms. And this is done not only so that their child, for example, avoids prison, but also so that he can feel responsible for what he has done. But it also happens differently.
The second option is alienation, the parent, as it were, says, “Patience has run out, I separate you from your kind, you have nothing to do with me.” However, there is one caveat here. The responsibility still lies with the parents. So, if their son ruined someone’s life or, God forbid, deprived someone of it, the responsibility will fall on the parents.
Parents cannot be blamed for such a child. However, if they can remove this “damage” from their child, then the life of the whole family will become more prosperous and happy in the future. Remember that family is the most important thing we have.