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An acute sense of resentment and hopelessness, a sharp decline in strength — these unexpectedly strong feelings are probably familiar to everyone whose income has already been affected by the current crisis. The despair of those who were left without work is understandable, but why is it so painful for those whose losses are not so significant?
«We are losing the illusion of omnipotence»
Natalya Kigay, psychoanalyst
“A prosperous life gives reason to hope that it is in our power to control it. It allows you not to think that it is finite, and we are mortal. But the moment reality breaks into our existence—even if it only affects our paycheck—we feel the ground slipping from under our feet.
At this moment, deep (narcissistic) fantasies about their own omnipotence and immortality collapse. Overwhelmed by panic, we feel that we have no power to influence anything around …
Reality can hurt — by recognizing this fact, we are able to accept life in all its diversity. Including more fully experience and appreciate her joyful moments.
“We confuse the concepts of “price” and “value”
“When there are no intelligible generally accepted values in a society, the price comes to the fore. These concepts are mixed: it seems to us that the monetary value defines ourselves, personifies what we have achieved and what we can count on.
When incomes rise, our value seems to increase. And the reduction in income is perceived very painfully: as if we ourselves are no longer worth anything.
Ask yourself the question: “Am I money?” The answer will help to separate the price from the value and realize how different things are.
“We resent the violation of our personal boundaries”
Nifont Dolgopolov, gestalt therapist
“We perceive even losses that are not the most tragic for us as a violation of personal boundaries: we feel unfairly offended, angry at those who, as it seems to us, hurt us, robbed us, humiliated us.
But the search for the enemy — people or circumstances responsible for the fact that life is changing, makes it difficult to realize the measure of one’s own responsibility for what is happening.
Have we not accounted for contingencies in business? Are we lacking professionalism? It is worth dealing with this — and taking responsibility for what will happen to us tomorrow.