Why are beautiful girls lonely?

Alexandra Lebedeva, editor

There can be many reasons, the main ones I would name are:

• She has high expectations for men.
• Inflated self-esteem and as a result — a selfish heavy character.
• She is “waiting for the prince” and is not used to taking the initiative, and the initiative from men does not come from the fear of rejection.
• She leads a secluded life and is afraid of new acquaintances.
• Everything is fine with her self-esteem and character, it’s just that there is no suitable man in her environment — this item is suitable for all lonely people, not only beautiful ones.

Viktor Yankauskas, programmer

Is it shameful to be lonely? I fully admit that girls can be quite comfortable outside of a permanent relationship. However, the same is true for ugly and not for girls.

Igor Pimenov, IT department employee

According to the stories of one familiar damn beautiful girl, it is very difficult for her to find someone, because they are afraid to approach people like her even with an offer to take a walk. When talking, guys just start to slur their tongues, their knees tremble, and self-esteem is rapidly falling.

Anna Fedorova, reader of TheQuestion

Everyone thought I was beautiful. Since childhood, they constantly said this, and I got used to this thought. And I have always been and remain alone. There are several reasons for this:

• The stereotype that all beauties are stupid. Accordingly, you can only “fun” time with them.
• Women’s beauty both attracts and repels men. Attracts impudent, self-confident, narrow-minded. It scares away the smart, modest, reliable. The first ones are not needed, the second cannot be lured by anything.
• Low self-esteem, paradoxically. “I’m not like everyone else”, “insolent people pester me, decent ones don’t look at me”, “no one is interested in my inner world, everyone considers me a stupid doll, which means that this is so” — approximately such thoughts are constantly spinning in head, and the attitude of others, especially men, confirms them.
• And as a result, a mask of pride and self-confidence is put on.

About 5-6 years after graduation, I met a married man. We became best friends, but I constantly felt a special attitude on his part, not quite friendly. And one day he admitted that he had known me for a long time, studied at the same university and loved me very much. To my question “Why didn’t you come then?” he replied: “You were so impregnable, the most beautiful at the institute, such guys were following you and you sent them off, where could I compete with them. You wouldn’t even look at me.»

Lena Klimanskaya, engineer-economist

First, no. This is a false statement. There are lonely beautiful ones, there are ugly and not lonely, and we don’t know what this loneliness is at the moment — they recently broke up, “I feel good already” (free choice), a transitional state or a tragedy.

A person can be lonely for a million reasons — just as for a million reasons he can be fat, tall, cheerful, poor, or whatever. But on the other hand, the statement “the beautiful are lonely” is a little comforting for those to whom they have refused sympathy.

Andrey Efimov, doctor

“A beautiful wife is a common property, an ugly wife is the husband’s punishment.” I think ethology, the science of human behavior, can provide the answer. A particularly beautiful woman with outstanding external data attracts, first of all, highly primative (thinking with instincts) men. Even if they are high-ranking, the beauty is highly likely to reject them if she herself is not stupid (“Impudent!”). A low-primative (thinking with his head) man will weigh the risks, take into account the proverb given in the title of this comment, and … will love the beauty from a distance.

Even if it is high-ranking and may well meet the highest demands. It’s like with a car: if you ride and brag, then a supercar. What if you take your kids to school…

Kristina Petrova

Single women (and there are too many!) are a sign of the times. It’s not about beauty at all.

Source: TheQuestion