The client is afraid when they shout at him …
General method of work: the psychotherapist invites the client to focus on his feelings and supports the client’s idea that the whole point is that he was afraid in childhood of his father screaming at him. Now you can work with the fear associated with the image of the father — there are many methods, all are quite effective. This fear was removed — the client receives confidence that now he will not be afraid of screams. The problem was created, the problem was removed — the client gained self-confidence!
Now the analysis is more detailed, step by step.
Stage 1: Formation of an internal problem. The client, using the usual methods of focusing on sensations caused by fear, himself (??) comes up with the idea that the whole point is that he was afraid in childhood of his father screaming at him.
The client can go to anything, without the consent of the therapist it will only be a glitch. If the therapist agrees. that this is a working hypothesis, they begin to believe in it together and work with it.
Stage 2: Dealing with fear. In the beginning — work with fear, work with the image of the father. If it turns out that the fear that a person is experiencing now is associated, for example, with a picture, an image of an evil father who stomps, screams and rages, it can be broken by simply offering to consider it in detail. “Were your eyes red? Did the nose swell? Did the spray fly? Did you wave your hands? Like this? Show me how. ”- thus depriving the image of connections, breaking it into pieces, which can then be folded in a different way.
Surprisingly, the intensity of fear subsides before our eyes. The terrible image collapses, and everything is a miracle — he is not afraid of him, he begins to laugh. Wonder what he was so afraid of? And already at the next meeting he says: “This is a miracle. I’m not afraid to scream.» See →
It is more difficult if it is not only the big picture, and there is not only fear. But also — reciprocal anger at the father.
Stage 3: Motivating and tightening the client. The client needs to be explained that until the “charge” is released for its intended purpose, he will look for his target (moreover, there is no understanding that the target is the father).
The therapist forms in the client a serious attitude towards working with anger, proves its inevitability.
Explanation: “Chronic malice (the same “charge”) is naturally projected onto others (“they hate me”), and then there is something to be afraid of. That is, the chain is as follows: today’s fear that they will shout, this is yesterday’s anger at others — the day before yesterday’s anger at the father — the day before yesterday’s father’s anger at him. (“Yesterday” — “the day before yesterday” is a convention. to indicate the position on the time line). This chain will have to be unfolded, and — to return to him contact with his own anger.
Stage 4: Dealing with anger. Next is a piece of work called “working with the image of the father”, when this image is expressed everything that was not expressed then (and often not only expressed, but also expressed in all suitable ways), then — again a return to today’s time, and a discussion — what and how it looks for him now, whether he is still afraid of screaming, and whose.
If it turns out that — no, OK, job done. If it turns out that “yes”, we are looking for a secondary benefit from today’s situations, and deploy again. And so — until we achieve a result, or — what is important — we admit that THIS METHOD cannot achieve the desired result.