Today we will talk about the signs of dislike. Internally, we still feel when something is wrong in a relationship with a particular person. It touches us, hurts us, but we try to hide the truth from ourselves to the last. “I’m petty, stop paying attention to such trifles, he just didn’t get enough sleep today.” Yes, we are arranged in such a way that it is hard for us to accept coldness from an emotionally close and dear person. True, in the end it will still turn out that we are not loved or loved enough.
If you yourself do not see such an attitude, then do not hesitate: others see it. One woman from another state told me a rather interesting story.
She worked in a small cafe. There were quite reasonable prices and a wonderful atmosphere. The city was the size of an average Russian village, where “everyone knows about everyone”. A young couple constantly came there — a guy of about 18 and a girl of the same age. The guy in this city studied and at the same time worked hard to somehow make ends meet and help his parents with the provision of younger brothers. With a girl, they came to the cafe each time according to a single scenario: she ordered everything she wanted, and he only ordered a glass of water. The guy was enthusiastically telling her something, she laughed in response, but it seemed that she didn’t care at all that her interlocutor didn’t order anything for herself.
The young man did not focus on this, but, looking from the outside, one could immediately say that this couple had no future. The girl did not care how her boyfriend got the money. She didn’t love him.
Or another example. About 12 oysters
How do you imagine a divorce because your husband ordered a dozen oysters at dinner? Sounds absurd, but let’s get it right. One woman had been working alone for two years. Her husband, once a serious boss, lost his position due to a habit of abuse. He was looking for a non-dusty job with no fixed schedule, non-dusty, as he used to. And I still couldn’t find it, which is not surprising. All this time, the wife paid for an expensive gym — after all, the husband is in such a difficult situation, his image depends on it. He drove an expensive car, the second had to be sold — there was simply nothing to support it. The wife also paid for the service — if you spoil the image, her dear husband will not see the position. And she worked hard, developed the business, while her husband rode all day “looking for work” and only showed up at home late at night.
She was negotiating business, and he told her: «Go to another room, I’m watching an interesting movie and you’re bothering me.» They went on vacation, but the condition of his wife from constant work and sleepless nights only worsened. And one day they went to a cafe to celebrate their son’s birthday. The husband was not shy about ordering the most expensive dishes. At the end of dinner, my husband made another order — 12 fresh oysters, which had just been brought to the restaurant. They cost space money and here the wife could not stand it. She filed for divorce, but her husband did not understand what was the matter. For him, his wife remained a traitor.
logical outcome
There are clear signs of dislike in these examples. If a person truly loves you, they will never call you at night, knowing that you had a difficult day, simply because they cannot sleep. He will not ask you for money if he knows that you are now having a hard time with finances. He is not worried about your resources, but about yourself, and this is the difference. Be attentive to your surroundings and do not wear rose-colored glasses, they tend to shatter with the lenses inside!