The romantic is a personal type in the ethical typology of the personality and one of the ways of human life (situationally — position), along with the position of the creator, consumer and parasite.
Sad romance.
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Romantics are people who want everything to be fine for everyone, but they don’t know who and how will do it. In this, romantics differ from the Creators, who not only have lofty intentions, but also realize them themselves.
Do not confuse! In the synthonic approach, «Romantics» are not called those figures of literature and art who traditionally belong to the romantic wing, but only those beautiful and kind people who take care of themselves and others, but at the expense of others.
A romantic is a mentally beautiful person who cares about people, about beautiful and kind things, but who specifically should do what seems absolutely necessary to romance — the romantic does not think. In fact, this is taking care of yourself and others — at someone else’s expense. A romantic is always a bit of a child, relying on someone Big and Kind, who will respond to his feelings, experiences and do everything you ask him to. To worry and worry, to believe and hope, to love and despair — this is the soul of a romantic. I believe in myself, I believe in a good beginning in other people (option: in my children), I believe in luck, I believe in God …
Compared to the Consumer, the Romantic is a more moral person in that he not only cares about himself, but also cares about others. In comparison with the Creator, the Romantic personality is less moral, since his good intentions of caring in fact have to be carried out by someone else.
Romantics admire the Creators, but usually from afar and not for long. The Romantic despises Parasites, because the usual Parasite thinks only of himself, and the Romantic is rooting for many. In fact, the Romantic is a relative of the Parasite, because, thinking about his bright projects, he does not think about who will do them, at whose expense all this will happen, as a result of which the traditional “We wanted the best. worked out as usual.»
The hostess had two favorite chickens, in which she doted on. And when one of them fell ill, she made him a delicious healing broth so that he would recover. It is clear that another, healthy chicken went to make the broth …
In a difficult and dangerous situation, the Romantic is in a hurry to sacrifice himself. It is more important for him to die beautifully than to count, wait, give in … He is not ready for compromises, and in a situation where some beautiful values uXNUMXbuXNUMXbhave to be sacrificed, he protests: “A person cannot live like this!” and exits the game.
There are many options: you can get drunk, you can shoot yourself.
In a situation of competition for limited resources, the Romantic is an altruist, for whom the other is always dearer than himself. He will give everything without thinking about the consequences. Romantic’s dream is humanism in a feminine version: gifts to children, especially orphans, help to the needy and disadvantaged, but without thinking through the consequences, these intentions often lead to even more trouble.
In a situation of well-being and abundance, Romantic really wants to arrange a Holiday for everyone, and not just his own, especially not only himself alone. That is why, if such a holiday does not work out, he may feel sad inwardly: “We feel good here, but in Angola the children are starving!”
Who is his own for the Romantic, and how he sees real, highly human relationships is a difficult question. The romantic here often shied away to extremes. Often the Romantic chooses Love for everyone, for all mankind and all living things in general (including the options «Kill the beaver, save the birch!»). The value of Independence is often proclaimed, then the Romantic speaks of the Freedom of the individual, in fact, meaning that he owes nothing to anyone. If the Romantic is in a close relationship with someone, he begins to talk about the importance of devotion: “We are responsible for those we have tamed!”.
No need to lend money to the Romantics: they will not return it and will be angry with you.
The alternation of unreasonable enthusiasm and unjustified sadness is very characteristic of Romantics. With age, the amount of enthusiasm decreases, sadness becomes the predominant emotional background. See →
Development direction
In work:
- Learn efficiency. Set realistic goals, think through ways to achieve them, set deadlines — and purposefully work according to the plan. It’s not romantic, but that’s what makes dreams come true and makes life.
- Learn time management. Nothing builds brains so cool as accounting and time planning!
- Develop systems thinking. Nothing kills empty romanticism like a careful analysis of the long-term consequences of actions dictated by feelings.
- In a relationship, learning to love is learning joyful care, not getting attached and not tying. See Love and affection.