Maybe Carlson should have been treated differently?
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Unlike the elderly, who need to make great efforts in order not to get sick, it is not easy for a normal child to get sick, he needs to make special efforts for this. However, children are quite inventive, and if they wish, most children easily get sick when it is beneficial for them. Everyone knows well what happens to the health of a student during the control period.
Life Stories: I knew that I had a weak throat, and when I had a test in school ahead, three days before it I made ice cold water and drank it until I got it all down. Three days later, confidently and steadily, I had a planned sore throat — exactly by the day of the control.
A child does not always need to get sick, sometimes it’s enough for parents to say: “I got sick!”, And if the mother is anxious, then most likely she will believe just in case. Smart parents don’t fall for such a cheap scam.
Life stories: As a child, I was a very big simulator, I managed to make it so that I didn’t go to school for months, ended up in the hospital, i.e. rich experience. But my daughter in the first grade is still not smart enough to play well. He comes up to me, says plaintively, “Mom, my head hurts so much,” I mimic her cheerfully and plaintively, “poor girl!” She is already laughing, she is trying to object: “Well, why are you like that?”, I ask her: “How?”. She forgets the beginning and says: “Mom, but my stomach really hurts!” “So, what hurts you — the head or the stomach? Olya, do you want to go to school? If you don’t want to, you won’t go tomorrow.» We agreed with her that a couple of times a year she has the right to simply not go to school.
Loving parents often make their children sick, namely anxious parents. More often these are anxious mothers and grandmothers. It seems to them that today the child is somehow lethargic, they often ask: “How do you feel?” «Are you sick?» «Show me your throat? It’s somehow red with you … ”- and if the child does not want to go to school today, it is enough for him to simply not resist the desire of his parents to leave him at home.
Children do not always want to get sick, sometimes it is quite enough for them not to care about getting well or staying healthy. For example, a seemingly sick child can sit in his shorts and read a book, not paying attention to the half-open window and the fact that he is already cold and blue: “Well, I just read it!” Why take care of your health when being sick is so cool?
Children often get sick when it is more profitable for them to be sick than to be healthy. Imagine the usual life of a child — worries and troubles, do homework, do not go there, help and a lot of prohibitions — the picture is not joyful. But suddenly, when a child gets sick, his life becomes different: he doesn’t need to get up anywhere, he lies in his bed, doesn’t go to school, reads books, they bring him everything, and he doesn’t need to do his homework … What in such a situation he will do more or less intelligent child? Most children begin to treat diseases as a pleasant part of life, the disease becomes attractive. It increases the likelihood that the child will someday invent illnesses for himself, and sometime get sick seriously and more often.
If you care about the health of your children, you will make sure that it is profitable for them to be healthy. And getting sick is less beneficial. It is not difficult, such a system can be created by parents in almost every family. Imagine the following picture: when children are healthy, they live happily, freely and have a lot of interesting things. They run, walk, they have a change of impressions and entertainment. That’s right: a healthy life should be full of joy.
But if a child gets sick, his life must change — in what direction?
If the son (suppose) does not get up in the morning, lies in bed and says that he is sick, kiss your loved one, calmly ask about the symptoms, measure the temperature, then look carefully into his eyes and ask like this: “Yes, it looks like a disease … Think, please, do you really need to get sick? If you look into the eyes of a child, you can see how attentive his eyes become. The child thinks quickly … He weighs … What does the child think about, what circumstances does he weigh? Sometimes the child needs to be reminded what it is: «to get sick.»
To be sick is very serious, to be sick is not just for you to wallow in the crib as you like. A weakened body needs a different mode of life, now you just need to lie down and no partying around the apartment. If you get up, you need to get dressed. So you get up, get dressed, go to the toilet, come back, undress, go to bed. You don’t need a book. TV, computers — God forbid, for the weakened psyche of the child is contraindicated. Therefore, you just lie down and every half an hour you go to gargle, this is a must, because it helps a lot with all sorts of colds and other diseases. If you recover a little, you gain strength, then you get dressed, sit down at the table, do your homework (after all, you skip school!) — and return to bed.
So, we return: “Well, do you want to get sick?” The answer can be anything, because sometimes children can really get sick honestly. As he says, so we believe, because the right conditions have already been created in the family.
Attention: we have no task to spoil the life of a child. The task is different: not to push children to make it profitable for them to get sick. The task is to create such conditions that it would be more interesting and profitable for your child to be healthy. And when the children are healthy, then the parents are happy.