What your man’s apartment has to say about him
A bachelor’s (still) den is able to reveal many secrets of its inhabitant. The main thing is to know what to look at and what to pay attention to.
Our accommodation can tell a lot about us. Even the first visit to your lover’s apartment will help you draw a number of important conclusions about his character. Let’s analyze by what signs you can find out about a man that he himself did not tell you?
The first thing that catches your eye in someone else’s dwelling (unless, of course, the apartment has black wallpaper and a satanic altar) is the sanitary condition of the room. You can start “scanning” right from the hallway, but most of all the kitchen, bedroom and bathroom will tell about the owner.
If the table in the kitchen is clean and your feet don’t stick to the floor, if the bed in the bedroom is neatly made, if you go to the toilet and you don’t cringe in disgust, everything is fine. Even if the cleanliness is not ideal, but efforts to maintain it are evident, you can mentally shout “hurray”. Even if a lonely lost sock peeped out from under the sofa, it’s not scary. A little slovenliness in a man is not considered a pathology.
It’s much worse if you find that the man you are dating is creepy and dirty. This means that if it comes to getting married, you have to babysit a big, careless child all your life.
Angelina, 34 years old:
“My future husband Serezha and I have already chosen the date of the wedding, but I have not yet been at his house. But I liked that he had, though small, but his own apartment. The first visit shocked me. In the room I saw an uncovered, catastrophically stale bed and a pillow with a pillowcase completely black from dirt (as it seemed to me at that moment)! Nevertheless, we still became husband and wife, and I did not regret it. I do not work, I do the housework, our bed is so clean by my efforts that it even crunches. I have no complaints about my husband: yes, he is not clean, but he is a very good earner and a very kind person. “
It is worth paying attention to such moments. If the guy knew that you would come to visit him, but did not even bother to remove his dirty socks from the dining table and wash the tea cups overgrown with mold, then he simply does not care about your impression.
Too sterile cleanliness in the apartment is also alarming. Either some woman’s hand removes from him (which one?), Or he is such an unbearable boring neatness that even life with a slob will seem sweeter.
Clumsy or jack of all trades?
If the taps are leaking in the apartment, the toilet flush is stuck, and the cabinet doors do not close properly, because the hinges are not fitted, keep in mind: all the same awaits you when you move out and heal in one house.
A man who knows how to hold a screwdriver, hammer, pliers and other tools in his hands will always take care of the comfort of his home, even if it is not his, but a rented apartment.
The presence of a large variety of utensils and tools for cooking can give out a keen cook. Unless, of course, he inherited all this from his ex.
It is unlikely that we absolutely need labels, because a person is a complex, multifaceted, constantly evolving being. In the end, one does not interfere with the other, you can find in the guy’s apartment both the snowboarder’s equipment, and a closet filled with a variety of fictional literature. What conclusions can you draw from this? Whether these hobbies are close to you or not – that’s what is most important. Do you like to read how your chosen one loves it? Are you ready to take a risk for the sake of a joint future – get on a snowboard and conquer the mountains?
Perhaps the following should be alarming: if you see a lot of accessories and equipment for various hobbies in a guy’s apartment, but you find out that he was not seriously carried away by music, drawing, sports, or Irish dancing – he just bought everything he needed, took a couple of classes – and I lost interest. Perhaps this is a sign of an infantile and somewhat sluggish nature. This is a period of trial and error that a person lives in adolescence and early adolescence. Why do you need a man who doesn’t know what he wants?
On the other hand, the very first visit to visit a guy can tell you the main thing: you have found a kindred spirit, you will never be bored together!
Nastya, 27 years old:
“The apartment of my beloved immediately said that he is a bartender, not very inclined to order, loves simplicity in everything and the brutal design of housing – animal skulls on the walls. The apartment also confirmed that he is engaged in historical reconstruction (like me), he loves the work of the artist Kitelsen and he has a very good musical taste. “
Even if your chosen one lives in the same apartment with his parents, this is not always a reason to put on him the stigma of a spoiled mama’s son.
But even if the presence of his mother is strongly felt in his separate apartment, this is a signal for you. In the refrigerator, neatly sorted into trays, there are several complex, non-bachelor-type dishes – this is a “hello” from mom. Cozy curtains with ruffles on the window and cushions on the chairs are my mother’s concern for comfort. The washed shoes, put in a row, a note with caring reminders on the mirror are also evidence that this is not the domain of a single man, but the territory of a mother and son.
The room is twilight (blackout curtains and floor lamps), many mirrors, the bar is full of expensive alcohol of various strengths and an open box of chocolates, in the bathroom there is aromatic foam and candles. On the walls there are prints or posters depicting erotic scenes, enveloping music pours from the speakers … Surely you can find a woman’s dressing gown in the closet so that the next guest has something to wear out of the bathroom: in the nest of an experienced playboy you will not find such a thing.
If the prospect of becoming the next item in the ladies’ collection suits you, your right. Just use the means of protection, however, in such apartments, their supply, as a rule, is neatly replenished. A man with the manners of a dude usually loves himself and takes care of himself.
Things that remind you of your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriends can be an unpleasant find. All kinds of joint mi-missed photos, clothes, shoes, cosmetics and so on.
This may indicate that your MCH has not cooled down from the previous romance and lives on the memories of the former sweetheart. Or he can also say that he is just so used to these things that he stopped noticing them, does not attach such importance to their presence that you attach.
One way or another, only life will help to check whether everything that your boyfriend’s apartment told you is true.