We found out if there is a grain of reason in this tradition.
“I told my husband about my first pregnancy, having bought booties for our future baby. This pregnancy has stopped. I didn’t buy a single thing next year, ”one of the mothers writes on the women’s forum.
“On the contrary, I started to prepare from the 20th week. Imagine, after giving birth, you yourself will run around the shops with a little girl, but there is nothing you need at home? Or will the husband buy? Yes, he is not able to distinguish booties from socks, ”the other objects to her.
Yes, women in anticipation of a child are perhaps one of the most superstitious people. Rational thinking and logic begin to fail, giving way to a variety of experiences. Moreover, “kind people” help: they say, you can’t cut your hair, sew and knit, etc. As if the future mother hadn’t enough excitement!
The sign about buying things in advance is growing, like everyone else, from time immemorial. Since ancient times, new clothes have been called an empty house. It was rumored that if it was not worn for a long time, then evil spirits would move in there. They begin to fight for their shelter and can interfere with childbirth. This fear that something will go wrong during childbirth is the most powerful.
You can consider this sign from the point of view of medicine. There were no stores for children before. Therefore, the father made the cradle, the mother sewed clothes for the future baby. In addition, many things were inherited by the younger ones from the elders – families in Russia in most cases had many children. Then, when the stores did appear, it was a problem to buy something in them – many people still remember the times of total shortage. Therefore, I had to knit, cut, sew, wash, iron. A pregnant woman spent a lot of time in a sitting static position, her legs were swollen, her back was tired, pressure could jump, or even hypertonicity of the uterus began.
Now, fortunately, in stores you can buy undershirts and romper suits for every taste, and perinatal centers are always ready to help a woman in labor. In addition, all things must be washed and ironed in advance. It’s good if there are helpers, but if not?
“In general, buying clothes for a baby is an important process for mothers, – says psychologist Polina Valova. – After all, they choose what their dearest man will wear. Thus, a woman’s maternal instinct manifests itself, she is tuned in to the successful course of childbirth. If relatives buy things themselves, then their choice may upset the expectant mother. There are also cases when a woman has already discussed the nuances of buying a crib with her husband, but he still brings the wrong thing! After all, the color, the equipment, the softness of the pillows and even the patterns on the wooden back are important for mom. And a man doesn’t really want to look at her in a store for an hour. He just takes and buys what is more or less suitable. I will add that pregnant women do not need to believe in omens at all. They were invented by people who had a narrow and everyday consciousness. Now all this only cloudes the mind, catches up with fear and can affect not only the mental state of the woman in labor, but also mainly the child. It must be remembered that everything depends only on our thoughts. What’s inside is outside. We ourselves shape our reality. And the fact that thoughts are material has long been proven! “
However, you can find disadvantages with advance purchases.
“Ultrasound can surprise you, – the psychologist continues. – For example, they will tell you that you will have a girl. You buy a pink stroller, choose a bunch of dresses, blouses … And a son will be born! And what to do ?! Psychologists recommend that mommy go shopping herself and choose several sets of things that she really likes. In any case, if they do not fit for some reason, they can always be distributed. “
What things to buy in advance?
Wardrobe or chest of drawers
You will definitely not go wrong with this. After all, a newborn will have almost more things than you yourself. It is worth deciding on its design, content, color and order immediately.
Stroller
The stroller can be purchased at a later date. Only the expectant mother herself should choose her. After all, it is she who will carry the child in it. Therefore, it is important to evaluate convenience, model and practicality. Important: you cannot buy a used stroller.
Cot
You do not need to buy and collect it as soon as you find out about your interesting position. Only closer to childbirth, you can install it and put a doll in it so that the place is not empty.
Linens
Everything except a pillow: in the first year of life, the baby does not need it.
Bathing accessories
Babies need bathing not so much for hygiene as for hardening. It makes no sense to stock up on skin care products right away – they may not work. Better to collect probes. But a bath, a towel, a thermometer, of course, come in handy.