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Many insecure women worry that their partners are unhappy with their appearance, weight, neatness. Here are the questions they ask most often, while men are not even aware of the torment of their girlfriends.
1. Does he like me?
Remember: if he spends time with you, then he likes you, period. Men will not endlessly look at your clothes, hair, makeup. Usually they are interested not only in appearance, they evaluate everything in a complex and decide to either ask you out on a date or leave you alone.
And when it comes to the first date, your sense of humor, intelligence and character will be much more important. Of course, a man may note your outfit or hairstyle, but in general, they pay much less attention to such details than you think.
2. Does he think I’m fat?
I repeat, if he invited you on a date, you suit him. By constantly making comments about your weight and not being flat enough, you only highlight your insecurities, and that is what repels most men.
Conversely, self-confidence is incredibly attractive, so stop asking, “Do I look fat?” If a man pays a lot of attention to your weight or often makes comments about your figure, it’s time to think about whether he suits you.
3. Why doesn’t he reply to my messages?
As a rule, men text at a different pace than women. Perhaps now he is at the gym, or meeting friends, or working, or playing computer games. In any case, he is not sitting, staring at the screen of the phone, waiting for a message from you.
And even if you sat and waited — do you really need a man who has nothing else to do? And, let’s be honest: do you always respond to messages immediately yourself? The wait only seems long if you think about it all the time.
Do not give in to anxiety and attack his phone with a stream of increasingly angry messages.
4. Why am I the only one planning what we will do?
Most men are ready to spend time the way you want. They don’t make plans because they don’t know what you want and are afraid to fail. In principle, they would be fine just sitting at home with friends, drinking beer and playing video games.
Is this option right for you? If not, stop complaining and come up with something really interesting. When he is with you, he most likely wants to spend time differently than with friends.
5. Will my girlfriends like it?
If it impressed you, your girlfriends will probably like it too. If you are too worried about their opinion, then either you yourself are tormented by doubts about the relationship, or you have too strict and picky girlfriends. Most men do not even think about how they look in the eyes of your friends.
6. Is my apartment clean enough?
Trust me, he doesn’t care. Surely your apartment is cleaner and tidier than his.
And in general, if the relationship has already reached the stage when you invite him to your place, most likely the cleanliness of your apartment is the last thing that will interest him.
7. What if he likes someone else?
Alas, the more you think about this, the greater the chance that these suspicions will come true. The more you worry about whether your man is looking at other women, the more insecure you seem to him. You begin to constantly suspect him, openly jealous of other girls, trying to set absurd rules.
In such a situation, a man may begin to doubt whether such a relationship suits him, and really start looking at other women.
If he constantly suspects you of something and tries to control your behavior, this is a reason to think
Healthy relationships are based on mutual trust, and confident men usually don’t worry about you having male friends.
Therefore, if he constantly suspects you of something and tries to control your behavior, this is a reason to think — such relationships cannot be called reliable and trusting.
8. Does he think about me when I’m not around?
Studies show that women are better able to do several things at the same time and think about different things at the same time, and also spend less resources on it. Therefore, it is easier for you to think about your partner while doing your daily activities at the same time. However, many women because of this complain of absent-mindedness and increased fatigue.
Men are better at focusing on what they are doing at the moment. Therefore, at work, your partner thinks about work, and when you are together — about you. This does not mean that he loves you less than you love him.
Unrealistic expectations will only lead to resentment and disappointment, which, in turn, will create unnecessary tension and give rise to conflict. It is better to remember as often as possible about his positive qualities and how much you love him.
Source: YourTango.