In order for people to turn on their heads whenever necessary, they must be able to do this easily and launch this skill. To do this, you need to create motivation, a habit or an anchor.
My colleague, A.E., has a very smart daughter: smart eyes, well-developed speech, high erudition. Where? From childhood, Papa talked to her a lot, told her about the world, people and science, read poetry and taught poetry with her, told her about Ancient Greece and explained the Christian commandments. And then he gave her dictations for complex words: as it is written (for example): “There was a ball at night. She got a high score. Next future answer night light alley gallery Dawn, alley, illuminated the forest. elastic ice cream frozen hose experiment…” and so on.
Will your children write all these words correctly?
Moreover, dad has two traits: he is both fascinating and a bore: you can’t turn away from him, you still get it. Here the daughter voluntarily-involuntarily, voluntarily-compulsorily began to live, thinking with her head.
Mechanism: passion, involvement and methodical gentle coercion.
My way is different: when I talk to children or employees, I carefully look them in the eye — and generally monitor the format. It is difficult for them to play a fool when an attentive person looks at them very carefully. As a rule, initially it turns on simply in imitation mode. They try to jump off — I don’t let it, I monitor eye contact (“Look into my eyes, please, we are talking!”) Or I pause until a meaningful expression appears in my eyes.
The child understands: he will stand in a conversation situation until he turns on his head. I don’t want to go into an open conflict, so they turn on my head. And soon it becomes just an anchor and a habit: the person next to me means you need to think with your head.