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What to do if your child doesn’t want to do homework
The homework is done, the mother is hoarse, the son is deaf, the neighbors have learned everything by heart, the dog has recounted it … Even if this is somewhat exaggerated, this situation, unfortunately, is familiar to many. After distance learning, after quarantine, many people find it even more difficult than usual to study. The child does not want to study – the parents conclude. And it begins … How to make sure that “homework” does not cause so many problems and does not undermine the mental health of children and parents?
In order for the child to do his homework, parents often have to use not only force, but authority for sure: punish, persuade … But I really would like everything to be without reminders: to go to homework, go to school with pleasure, and in the diary there were only good grades.
Psychologists say this is quite possible. But you have to try: you need to arouse your own child’s interest in learning. Of course, it is much easier to compel learning through blackmail and threats. But psychologically it is very difficult for both. In addition, threats will cease to work in adolescence.
So how do you deal with your homework without stress? healthy-food-near-me.com has put together a few tips to help make learning easier.
Knowledge is cooler than grades
Don’t overreact to bad grades, or compare your child’s performance to siblings or classmates. Remember that in any situation you are his ally. Be sure to praise for good grades. For the bad ones, ask what prevented you from doing better.
It is necessary to say and do everything so that the child understands that he will be loved, regardless of his price. Then he will try, because no one wants to upset the one who loves you.
Even if the living conditions do not allow the child to be allocated a separate room, he needs his own space where he will store school supplies.
Remember: if the child is comfortable to sit, there is a comfortable table and chair, a table lamp, he will fidget less and be distracted from the lessons simply because he is uncomfortable. Not to mention the correct posture and safety of the schoolboy’s vision. How a properly organized workplace for a student should look like, read HERE.
By the way, any foreign objects (phone, toys, pictures, etc.) should not distract the child from assignments. All this must be removed from the table and out of sight.
Business time, fun is a must
Experts have found that the most productive time to complete homework is from 15:00 to 18:00. After school, the child should rest for an hour and a half. If you take a longer break, then he will get tired and overexcited from games and entertainment.
It is best for children who study in the second shift to do their homework in the morning.
When doing your homework, you need to take breaks: 15 minutes after 40 minutes of classes or 10 minutes after finishing lessons in one subject.
The child must understand that it is in his interests to cope with the lessons as soon as possible.
Do not drag out the lessons until the last, that is, do not leave them late in the evening. And motivate the child to do some tasks in advance – for example, what will be checked on Thursday, let him do it on Monday or Tuesday. It’s so nice to find out later that some of the lessons are already ready!
There is nothing worse than a snowball of misunderstood topics, unanswered questions, uncompleted assignments. Do not leave your child alone with difficulties, help him figure it out. Now it is as easy as shelling pears to do it: there are many tutorials, encyclopedias, manuals, films on the Internet. You just need to search.
But let’s note: the key word is help. Doing assignments for a schoolboy is not worth it. As well as introducing practice to constantly do lessons with him.
If the child is engaged all the time, does not mess around, but the “homework” is still delayed until the night, think: maybe he is simply overworked? Indeed, sometimes a student, in addition to the school itself, also has chess with drawing, an English tutor, judo and ballroom dancing. The child does not have time to rest, as a result, he simply does not have enough strength to do everything. Nowadays, even in a “regular” school, a lot of homework is given, so do not overdo it with additional activities.
Encourage, but know when to stop
The easiest way to motivate the child to complete the lessons is often chosen – financial incentives. Someone has money, someone has various purchases, sweets, the opportunity to play computer games or watch TV. Such rewards are fraught with danger: the child will manipulate you and in the future will do everything only for a fee.
Praise your child for self-completed lessons, good grades. In honor of this, you can arrange festive tea parties. The realization that his success pleases the whole family will inspire the child to continue his efforts.
The child does not want to do homework, because when he does them, the mother is hysterical. He makes 10 mistakes in one sentence because he is tense and scared. Try to write at least something yourself, if a person is standing over you and carefully watches how you print letters (and even starts yelling if you suddenly make a mistake).
Imagine this situation: you are writing a quarterly report, and your boss is standing next to you, checking each column and cursing if you make a mistake or make a mistake with a number. And he also periodically yells, threatens with dismissal, fines, and just insults during the whole process. Well, will the report go fine? Or imagine a kind and adequate boss who praises for every correctly written letter, gently and patiently corrects mistakes, gently but persistently advises on how to do better. So it’s much nicer to write a report, isn’t it?
Just keep in mind: in this hypothetical situation, you can still quit and find a normal boss. And the child is not. Now do you understand why you don’t need to do homework with your child?
Marina Ryabtseva, Natalia Evgenieva