Go study? Believe in yourself? Change image? All methods are good, the main thing is that the feeling of your own worthlessness leaves you as quickly as possible.
It happens that you are not yet 30, and the feeling that life is ending is already making itself felt. What to do in such a situation?
Asya Kazantseva, science journalist
“Go study. I’m completely serious. And it’s better not even to graduate school, where there is mainly scientific activity, but to a second higher education or to a master’s program — where there are a lot of lectures. Ideally, in some area adjacent to the one in which major career achievements have recently taken place, so that there is a lot of new information, but there are also familiar points of support.
Firstly, associative thinking turns on: you are again doing the same thing that you were at eighteen (only now consciously and voluntarily), and the teachers treat you like a little girl (when compared with your bosses/colleagues/subordinates who stubbornly believe that you adult).
Secondly, you have a new reference group – your classmates. You can compare yourself with them and, for example, make sure that you look no worse than those who are younger, but you earn much more. It reconciles with age.
Thirdly and most importantly, learning promotes the growth of new neural connections, it anatomically changes the structure of the brain. I am not exaggerating, you can read about this, for example, in the book of Nobel laureate Eric Kandel “In Search of Memory”. New brain, new life!
Maxim Konovalov, PR manager
“29 is not 92, you still have half a century of wonderful life ahead of you. Your decadent moods are probably due to the midlife crisis, which in recent years has become much younger, approaching the time of graduation from the university – about 25 years old.
That is, by the end of the first milestone of adult life, when a person, as a rule, achieves the very first noticeable results in his career, on the personal front and in general, anxiety about the future instills in him: it does not seem to portend dramatic changes, unlike previous years, which contained so much. Often after 25 people moves on knurled. Here you are discouraged.
I assume that you are experiencing social pressure. In the old fashioned way, it is “required” to give birth immediately after 20, make a career by 30, and after 50, probably, go to the side of life and drift towards the dacha.
This is only partly justified, since human destinies develop in different ways. Depending on the circumstances and smiles of Fortune. This is your life, and only you and those who are truly dear to you have the right to share the pleasure of it. As well as looking into your passport / calendar is allowed to the elite.
Be that as it may, 29 years old is a wonderful age. There is an opinion that by the age of 30 a woman approaches the peak of her own sexuality and, in general, flourishes. And then, we are still not in the XNUMXth century, when Pushkin wrote: “An old man of about thirty entered the room.”
Angelina Jolie, for example, became a global celebrity and one of the most desirable women of our time much later than you are now. Jennifer Lopez started her singing career at the threshold of her XNUMXs.
Anna Patova, biologist
“First, stop. And to think that life is a short thing, you will not have time to notice how you turn into a grandmother. Then it will be possible to enjoy it to the fullest: knit socks, read books, gossip, grow pumpkins and strawberries in the garden, babysit grandchildren, admire wrinkles, feel the transience of time.
Each age has its own. 29 years is the time for joy. Independence, health, time to build, create and act. Shake yourself up, because you can spend your youth like this, sighing, and the saddest thing is that you can’t return this time later!
Everything will be fine. Go to a good stylist, a hairstyle and a new wardrobe change life for the better, remember at least the movie “My Big Greek Wedding”!”
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