Men get mad too. Especially when they think their money is being spent incorrectly.
“Hello dear ladies! I very much ask the editors of this portal not to shorten or review my text. Perhaps I am not as beautiful and correct in presenting my thoughts as some, but I would not want someone to distort my words. So. The situation is as follows. I’m sure my wife is fattening up my alimony. And he does it on purpose to annoy me as a former spouse. At the same time, the child gets little.
So that you understand that these are not empty words, I will give examples. I am an economist by training, so I prefer dry numbers and bare facts. And they are as follows: with my wife (the surname, name and patronymic of the ex-wife, we nevertheless ventured to delete, we will call the woman simply Marina. – Ed.) We divorced three years ago. Consider that you do not agree with the characters.
I left her an apartment and furnishings in this apartment. Do not think that I am petty and count every TV or mixer, but still any item has its own price, and if there are a lot of these items, then the price is appropriate. So that you understand, we have two TVs left in our apartment, a microwave oven, a dishwasher and a washing machine, a two-compartment refrigerator, a freezer, an electric fireplace, an automatic air humidifier, a good iron, a coffee machine, a blender, a multicooker, a washing vacuum cleaner, an electric meat grinder, a thermopot and others less valuable household items. I left all this to my wife and child. Moreover, for myself, I immediately decided that I would pay them good alimony. Since I have my own company, you understand, I could easily not have done this, simply by rigging the documents. But I decided to be honest.
I began to transfer money almost from the first month (at first there were some difficulties). According to our agreement, after the transfer was received, my wife called on time and reported that the money had been received, and then told me what she was planning to spend it on. The amount, so that you understand, is a little less than 30 thousand rubles. Taking into account the fact (I repeat) that I left everything for them and there is no need to buy anything, I think that the figure is quite decent.
The child was small, my wife was on maternity leave, she did not work anywhere, her company was liquidated, and she was looking for other employment options, but, in my opinion, she was in no hurry with this. So. I will repeat myself. At first everything went fine, reports were received regularly (up to checks for large purchases), but then she began to delay reports or send incorrect data altogether. Why incorrect? Because the sums there simply “did not fight”! For example, I listed 27, and she sent a report where only 089 were written. The ex-wife did not explain where nearly two thousand rubles went.
Further more. Realizing that money can be spent not on a child, but on other needs, I began to send recommendations on what I would like to use these amounts for (swimming pool, speech therapist, football training). My wife started calling and shouting that I had no idea what the prices were today, and I don’t know that, for example, one trip to the pharmacy for cold pills costs several thousand rubles. To this I replied that I perfectly represent the prices, but I think that the spouse should also invest in the child and trips to the pharmacy, as well as pay for doctors on their own.
Even the psychologists could not reconcile the former spouses
After that, the wife began to have tantrums again. She said that she had not yet found a job, that she was forced to live with her son on alimony, including buying food with this money and paying for utilities. It was then that my doubts arose. I realized that I could not check her income, since, most likely, my wife still works, but illegally and “in the dark”, which means that I cannot be sure that the wife, under the pretext of a difficult financial situation, does not spend my money on her own myself. And believe me, she can!
When I told her directly about this, I received a sharp rebuff and another scandal. After that, I was finally convinced that my ex-wife was fattening on my alimony, therefore she could not (or rather, she didn’t want to) attach checks to the reports and explain what the money was spent on.
And now, ladies and gentlemen, the question for which I wrote all this. Who does the same as my wife? Do not be afraid to answer sincerely, because you will write anonymously, and no one will know about it anyway. And I would like to understand how to bring the former to clean water and get it down. Thanks. All the best. Alexander Vasilievich O. “